[kitten420]

Well I don't want to attack her. I just need to cool down before I talk to her because if I talk to her now it will NOT be pretty. Well the issue that lies within the problem is weither or not I should even consider giving her another chance to even gain my trust again. And I was wondering the view and opinions of others in this situation and what they would do. And for as what has happened not only has she caused me and my boyfriend to fight and argue numerous times and you would know this if you read my other post from October. But she also has betrayed my trust and kind of ruined my view on my relationship and I honestly don't even know if she takes me seriously or not. She makes me feel like since I gave her so many chances that I would let her get away scotch free like I was kidding or something when I said she had to pay rent. And honestly I feel used. This isn't the first time this has happened. I used to buy her stuff all the time and she has said she would pay me back but never has. And with my boyfriend she went around spreading lies to my sister saying that my boyfriend was talking crap about her when he wasn't and this caused a big argument between everyone and it gotten so close to the point he was going to break up with me over the drama sarah was brigning in our home.

[kimsland]

Thanks for the extra info

By the way, what does your (ex) girl friend, think of your current boyfriend?
Especially seeming he blamed her for arguments between the both of you!

I wonder if your boyfriend wasn't there, that you would still be with your actual long term friend still.

These money matters will definitely be forgotten
But that friendship will never be forgotten

I'm sorry that you (especially) and others don't see the real picture here
There's no betrayal of your boyfriend to see your old friend of many years

I'm pretty sure you'll make up, and hopefully you're brave enough to post this (ie today; or tomorrow)
You really shouldn't leave it too long before contacting her

I'm sorry that this mis-trust of finance (only) has caused this big issue
Your friend would definitely come back to you, if you gave her a chance to
Good luck if you are ever down and out, and promise to pay, but then spend your money on what you think is OK. You wouldn't do that? No because you can't see this at the moment. Anyone could have been in her position, with a friend's boyfriend at her , and you all the time.

I'm babbling. I can't force you to see
Open an old photo album. Then you'll know.

[kitten420]

The point is thought that it wouldn't have even been a big issue if she would have at least called me and said hey I'm sorry but I don't think I am going to pay rent this month or any month and I am just going to move out. Then that would have been fine. I know me and sarah will make up come on she is my best friend but seriously what she did was back stabbing and very irresponsible. If she was being a friend and being responsible she would have called me instead of hiding at her dads and ignoring the issue. Sarah knows she was in the wrong and that is why she didn't call me at all!! One day yes I will forgive her but for now I have decided that I am going to go my own road and she can go hers for now and when she decides she wants to be a grown woman and call me and apologize and relize what she did was wrong then we can talk. But until then when she comes back to get the rest of her imma tell to not let the door hit her on the way out!

[kimsland]

Still mad by chance?

She's too embarrassed to call you, because she thinks you hate her (and your boyfriend hates her) Geez she's put you in the red and all.

She can't call you, and she'll probably come with friends to get any further belongings left behind.

By the way, if you just call her up. Well preferred to go to her actually.
Everything will be fine.
I'm sorry that she and the one you love (your partner) had a falling. And he wouldn't want to see her again anyway, geez I wouldn't. I might even let you know!


But you and her, that's a different story. Don't leave it too long to get your friend back

[kitten420]

Sarah knows me well enough to know that she needsto explain herself to me and aplogize. And you know what she should be emberassed and she should feel very shameful! I am done with this thread I have nothing more to say. Thank you for your advice I took it to heart but I know what is best for me and honestly that's all that matters.

[kimsland]

Thread pending reply... :)

I'm going offline too.

[Justwantfair]

By going back to this friendship she is making herself a doormat.

Her friend needs to apologize for being so irresponsible and for taking advantage of your friendship.

You owe your friend nothing at this point in time, she abandoned her obligation and used your friendship. Time will heal this wound but I agree it is not your responsibility to seek out her friendship at this time.

[kimsland]

Incredible

My only hope, is that all the negative replies are coming from younger people
Anyway, when the friendship all comes back together, make sure to post and tell.
It would be sad not to tell all these people that friends are actually worth it

Hey I'll go apologize. Hang on I've got a better idea.

I'm Sorry

[Justwantfair]

Yep at 30... just so feable minded. Why would you expect that she be the one putting in the effort to mend this friendship right now?

I can understand it will heal, but she doesn't need to make the first step and she doesn't need to do anything at this time but cool off. She shouldn't apologize for being used by her roommate. Her friend has a lot to apologize for, but her friend is young and might not realize the situation she has caused.

I don't agree that it is kitten420's responsibility to right the wrong here, not at this time, but that is not to say that they won't repair the friendship and learn from living together.

[talaniman]

Kitten, your doing the right thing, and have no need to apologize to any one. You have done more than a friend should, and was not given the same respect.

Friendship is a two way street, and you should not have to kiss your friends butt, nor allow selfish, disrespectful behavior, toward you.

That's not a friend, but a leech to be avoided, no matter how long, or how close you had been.

Obviously something changed with her, so leave her be.