[kimsland]

Expect flowers! Nothing less

[kitten420]

Lol kim why do you have to read it slowly?

[kimsland]

but at the same time he is also trying to make you feel bad dont let him do that to you too often or he will always get his way.

Here's what you say
"Thanks honey love you"
Then after hanging up...
Ar$3 H0le!

:p

[kitten420]

Lol that's halerious

[kitten420]

Actually I think I do that to my boyfriend all the time lol j/k

[kimsland]

Ah huh!
New it ;)

Yes we'll get along :)

[kimsland]

Doh!

Where's edit on these posts Knew

[kitten420]

Yea your good peoples kim you make me giggle.

[kitten420]

I think we have one right next to rate this user lol

[kimsland]

No
No edit there

Anyway Lovelee, can you please comment?

How do you feel now anyway?

[Lovelee]

No
No edit there

Anyway Lovelee, can you please comment?

How do you feel now anyway?

I'll take responsibility for this one because it was uncalled for. I still need his support to get me through this.

[friend4u178]

No
No edit there

You need to be a member for a certain amount of time kim before you are able to Edit , I think it's 48 hours.

[Lovelee]

Ever have a fight with your mate where harsh words were said, and a lot of yelling took place? For me there is this excrutiating silence and discomfort of trying to get things back to normal. To be more specific when your on the phone and there is a long pause where no words are said just heavy breathing and clearing throats. Could be embaressment could be your still a little hurt.

Let's hear some comments, how do you feel after a fight?

[TrueFaith]

Well that is true of most people. Phone fights are silly I find.

Fighting and shouting. Is silly anyway. Because no one gets a word in. and
Once harsh words and petty name calling comes into play.. Nah.

What I do. If one of my girlfriends did that.
I normaly say going out for a drive ring me when you calmed down.


I think most people feel upset or hurt. Or frustraded.

[talaniman]

We don't fight, we just wait for the emotional dust to settle, and go about the business of just being together.

The trick is to temper your reaction with good common sense, and don't react when the sense is not so common. Knowing when to just shut up, helped us both.

Never be afraid to say your sorry, as that's a good start for starting over.

Took an awful lot of practice though. Still ironing out the kinks.

[southerngalps]

Never be afraid to say your sorry, as thats a good start for starting over.

That's what I was going to say. Just be the bigger person and say sorry first if it hasn't already been said.

After a stupid, meaningless argument, sorry is the best word.

Always say you understand how they feel.

[Lovelee]

Well that is true of most people. Phone fights are silly i find.

Fighting and shouting. is silly anyway. because no one gets a word in. and
once harsh words and petty name calling comes into play.. Nah.

What i do. if one of my girlfriends did that.
i normaly say going out for a drive ring me when you calmed down.


i think most people feel upset or hurt. or frustraded.

Fighting over the phone is sillly but sometimes it can't be helped. When my boyfriend gets bold and starts shouting in the phone I usually answer in kind. I know I should be the bigger person but he can infuriate me sometimes. After a fight when things have simmered down and you talk on the phone is when the discomfort is not during the fight.

[Lovelee]

Ok my boyfriend and I have been on very rocky ground lately but he reassures me everyday that he wants to be with me. He has been working constantly these last couple of weeks and we barely see each other as a result. I have tried very hard to be understanding and patient and decided that I love him too much to let him get away. Yesterday we finally were able to have a conversation without arguing and things were going good.
He told me that he would be out on business for a few hours today but assured me that he would be back by noon. Needless to say that was hours ago and I've tried to call him but his phone is turned off and I cannot reach him, and he certainly hasn't called me. My first impulse is to worry about him wondering if he is okay but now I'm getting paranoid thinking he is fine and possibly with someone else. Why else would his phone be off and he not call me? He should have been back hours ago but he isn't.
I don't know what to think. Whatever he had to do shouldn't have taken so long and I'm afraid I'm being taken for a fool. It will piss me off to know that he went to spend time with another woman after knowing he doesn't spend much of it with me. This will mean that all the things he told me about wanting me in his life, wanting marriage, kids and a future was one big lie and that our whole relationship is based on a lie. It would mean that he is hypocritical accusing me of seeing other men while he is the one cheating.
I don't want to have these thoughts but as it gets later and later I'm thinking more and more that he is up to no good. He knows I have zero tolerance for a cheater. If that is the case we will not be together. Will he risk what we have for a woman who he is willing to make time for and not make time for me? Which will be the ultimate slap in the face? I need to hear reasoning here. I need the very wise opinions of this board. Am I overreacting?

[TrueFaith]

OK shhhhh

You are spinning off into a world of thought..

Calm down and come back down to earth..
There could be many reasons he has not been able to contact you

Good! That you don't stand for cheaters you should not!

Wiat for the facts. Wait until he rings you.
Then.. in a calm way you can tell him that you was worried about him.

But don't get on the phone screaming where the hell was you and are you cheating on me.

Many people work a lot over the holidays
I myself am working crazy hours
And I don't always get time to phone my girlfriend.
And I'm not sure as to what his job is. But sometimes when we are in a meeting. We have to turn our phones off
And 9 times out of 10 I forget to turn it back on.

So again many reasons.

You guys have had a rocky past. And it seems like you are both still willing to work at the relationship
So talk more when you get the time.

Don't let your thoughts drag you down or lead you onto a path with no facts

All the best

[liz28]

You might be over reacting. There have been times that my fiancé felt this way when he couldn't get a hold of me but it was due to my phone dying. The other difference between me and your boyfriend is that I would find a way to call him but there have been times when I was traveling and had to wait hours to get to a phone.

But I not too should about your boyfriend because I don't know your history with one another. I'll read some of your other posts.