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    Dec 1, 2008, 12:48 AM
    Im pregnant
    Hey guys I need answers fast...
    Ok I got drunk and had sex with this guy and the condom broke but he
    Didn't know I knew. So I didn't say anything to him because I didn't think I was going to get pregnant. So I started feeling sick and I took a test because my period actually came very late and only for 1 day so I took a test and it came out positive I told him and he said its not his baby but only reason I think he is saying that is because he is about to go to college and then he was telling me I should have an abortion and I'm like if its not yours why do I need an abortion well he said if I have it he won't help what do I do? And do you thinkl he will come around?
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    Dec 1, 2008, 01:02 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by lashay10 View Post
    Hey guys I need answers fast...
    Ok I got drunk and had sex with this guy and the condom broke but he
    didn't know i knew. So i didn't say anything to him because i didn't think i was going to get pregnant. So I started feeling sick and i took a test because my period actually came very late and only for 1 day so I took a test and it came out positive i told him and he said its not his baby but only reason i think he is saying that is because he is about to go to college and then he was telling me i should have an abortion and I'm like if its not yours y do i need an abortion well he said if i have it he won't help what do i do? And do you thinkl he will come around?
    Wow, got yourself in a little predicament didn't you? Now, this guy, is he a boyfriend? Do you know his last name? One night stand?

    Now, i don't understand why you didn't say anything if you knew the condom broke. Don't say you didn't think you would get pregnant. You knew sex = pregnancy.

    I'm sorry I sound so harsh, but this is what lessons are learned of.

    What do you do? That's a pretty big question right now, and to be honest with you, we really can't tell you. You will get some answers here that tell you to keep the baby, put it up for adoption or to abort it. But in the end the decision is yours and yours alone.

    And do you thinkl he will come around?
    We cannot answer this question, we don't know him.
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    Dec 1, 2008, 05:23 AM

    Well forget the jerk, and who cares if he "comes" around. If he was a boyfriend he should be there for you if he really cared for you.

    So if you want to have the baby ( what YOU want,not what someone else wants) you have the child, file for child support after the baby is born. And the court will be sure he helps.
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    Dec 1, 2008, 10:09 AM

    If you want to have the baby then have the baby. He can't force you to get an abortion, especially if he denies that it's his.
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    Dec 1, 2008, 11:46 AM

    Omg thank all of you well I have been knowing him for yrs. And yeah I know his last name and well I'm actually going to the dr today to see how far along I am! So pretty excited ! I'm going to keep it the thing is I'm young and if my mom wants me to have an abortion I can deny it right?
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    Dec 1, 2008, 11:48 AM

    I'm pretty sure your mom can't make you have an abortion. How old are you though?
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    Dec 1, 2008, 03:05 PM

    If you are young... you should look at the pros and cons of EVERY option you have.

    Best of luck :)
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    Dec 6, 2008, 03:06 PM
    16!
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    Dec 6, 2008, 03:12 PM

    This whole situation is sad.

    I had my son at 17 and you have NO IDEA what you are in for or you wouldn't be excited.

    Please research all of your options, you do have some and abortion is not the only option. Your life is in for huge changes and without the assistance of a supportive partner you have created a very difficult life for yourself.

    Good luck to you in the situation you have created for yourself.
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    Dec 6, 2008, 04:32 PM

    On previous posts in October you said you just found out you are pregnant, so when did you really find out you were pregnant?

    And also in October you were 17, and now your 16. Seems a little odd to me.
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    Dec 6, 2008, 05:34 PM

    I recently had my son at the age of 18 (19 now) and I admit it is hard at times but If u decide to keep the baby, u just can't give up on school! Finish high school and go to college, most college help young mothers with day care and financial aid. You owe it to your baby to get your education and have a career that will supply him or her with all of the baby's needs. I wish you the best of luck!
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