[superman52]

All right, I've been dating this women named Bridget for about 3 yrs, we definitely had our highs and lows and its always seems like she'll love me for a couple of months then feel like it's over out of nowhere then after another few months want to get back together... well anyway about four months ago that exact thing happened only to the tenth degree... I haven't seen her for the four months but about a week ago me and her started talking again and we felt that same spark that we felt before... we had made plans for last weekend but it fell through due to family issues on my part... I apologized over and over again but she just won't accept it... now whenever I try to call her she doesn't pick up and it seems like she's avoiding talking to me... idk... I love her without doubt in my mind... but I don't want to anymore... I feel like I simple Can't live without her... Im asking for advice on either how to get over her or how to get her back... PLEASE SERIOUS POSTS ONLY!!

[WFM117]

It sounds to me that you are in love with past memeories of this girl, not who she is at the present. Everything that you have described has to do with fear of loss not "love". Holding on to past experiences is easier than letting go, but not always the healthiest thing for YOU. Does it feel as if the same things that you are going through are what your girl is experiencing. If that answer is no, then you need to start looking out for the best intrests of yourself. Not understanding your family circumstance/emergency, is only a way for her to take control of the situation & place guilt on you for something that was clearly out of your control. Advice: I would let things chill out for awhile. I don't mean ignore calls and play the I don't care anymore game. But just live your life, go about your normal routine(before the relationship)do what makes you happy. Because it sounds as if she has been doing this for some time, that is, placing herself before you. Most likely the inattention will make her realize what she has been doing, playing games. If it doesn't, the time that you have "living life" and doing what makes you happy will allow for an easier transition to cut her off. Best Wishes! Good Luck! "Life, what a hell of a thing to happen to a person".

[ChihuahuaMomma]

It sounds like she comes back to you when its convenient to her, and you are the one being convenient. So make yourself disappear. Don't answer her calls, texts, emails, anything. Move on. It will be the healthiest thing you do. You'll be so much happier in the long run.