[lkjfdsa18]

Hi, about a month ago I started talking to this girl in my math class. We seemed to hit it off well. We went to the movies a couple of times and had a lot of fun. Then last week she told me that she did some things with other guys in her past before we started talking. But after she seemed a little off when around me. Last weekend we go to the movies and had fun again. The next day she texts me and says she feels trapped by our relationship and that she wants to take a few steps back and just date. I was OK with that because I really like this girl. But she wanted it to be an open relationship. But I am not OK with that. A day went by and things didn't get better. So I talked to her and said that I wanted to be friends still and that I really like her but I didn't want the relationship to end badly because I can not handle an open relationship, so I basically ended the relationship. That was on Tuesday. We have talked and texted since then. But I feel like I have made a huge mistake with breaking up with her. Then today I was texting her for a little while and then asked her if she wanted to watch a movie. But she took like 2 hours to respond to that and it was to say that she has plans. I don't know what to do. But I do think I am being a little paranoid.

[Eileen1218]

I think that you already done the best thing. She wants an open relationship and you don't so you told her so.. you done the best thing. You was honest w/ her !
Tho you asked her over to watch a movie and she refused so apparently she can't handle being just a friend... BUT, don't forget what she wanted in the first place... You can't handle that! Hope this will help you out .

[Vix89]

Move on

[lkjfdsa18]

Another thing I forgot to add was that she said she just needed some time to think. That she just wasn't ready for a fully dedicated relationship. She thought she was but she wasn't.

[Vix89]

Seriously move on

[tatj2525]

I think it's great that you both are able to be honest so that you each can make your choices. It sounds like you want commitment and she wants to explore her options and does not want to commit. Friendship is good, I believe if you try and push it any further after she has expressed her unsureness then you will lose friendship as well.

[xxariesxx]

Yes you did the right thing and are very mature about being honest with her about how you feel, as well as she being honest with you.

You're only paranoid you made a mistake because you wanted more from her; but it was not a mistake, you were right in doing what you did.

[lkjfdsa18]

Thanks everyone. U have helped me quite a bit. :)

[lkjfdsa18]

OK. I haven't talked to her since Saturday, and today out of the blue she texts me and asks how I am. We talk for a little bit. But now after we got done talking I feel all of the things like regret and making a mistake again. I've been getting better everyday since Saturday. But now it all came crashing back again. And I can't the feeling to go away.