[anuthethali]

Hi, My name is Anu.I have a very serious problem.I was in love with a guy when I was doing my engineering.We got married without the knowledge of anybody except some of his friends(none of our parents know).I love him more than anything on earth .Later on problems started he used to restrict me from talking to guys or going out with girls also. He always believed his friends and used to ask me for clarrification.. I am a frienndly kind of a girl.I used to feel bad ,we used to quarel for sometime and after tat everything was k.this used to happen every 3 or 4 days.I used to compromise and say sorry.Thing went on like this for 2 yrs I wanted his caring.I used to lie that I was not feeling well because if I was ill then he used to speak caringly to me.Finally oneday I can't even tell I stopped talking to him.He did his engineering for 6 yrs.After my engineering I left for job.Then also I used to speak to him .He always failed in his exams only when I stopped talking to him he completed his engineering and that to because of anger.After stop talking to him I met another guy in the office.he proposed me but I said no.For about 1 year he was explaining me the situation If your first love was genuine you can't go away with him but you know his mentality and why still you want to be there with him.After some days when I said no he brought the proposal to my parents and they were very happy with my colleague and the marriage is almost fixed.Even when the proposal was running I called my ex lover and told him everything the response I got from him was "Do u now understand why i never allowed u to speak with guys?" Again I felt very bad.I had no words.3days I called him and tried to convince him but still.I had no other go my parents were happy,so I said yes.But now he started mailing me.I am already feeling bad and now these mails are taking me into depression.definitely keeping apart job position my colleague is veryvery good.. He accepted me along with my past.He knows everything that happened between me and my ex but still he wants me in his life.Beacause of the disturbances for my ex I am unable to lead a happylife with the current person.I still have feeling for my ex but I know I will be very happy if I marry my colleague.This dilama is driving me mad.May be the reason why this prob araised is Comparison.My colleague is a very simple guy ,very responsible in one word perfect person to rely on.he is no good looking,trendy and presently he does not have a good job also.Plzzz help me.My Ex never had respect formy feelings.Now he says he changed but I can't trust hin in the same time I am unable to kill my feeling towards my ex. Help me... :(

[450donn]

Until you can end your emotional attachment to your ex husband you cannot marry or even date someone else. That is not fair to them or to you. You have to make a big decision here. And the first thing you need to do is end your engagement, get alone for a while and determine what YOU want in life. Then go for it.