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lake shore glas · Nov 17, 2008, 05:36 PM

? I live 90+ miles away from my kids and newely married for 2nd time. Issue is kids are 13 and 16 and have activities that occur on my weekends that involve multiple times and locations. I cannot drive to the kid's location and get hotel room and pay for food etc. I want to spend time with the kids however, the kids activitities are making our time difficult. I need practile solution

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stinawords · Nov 17, 2008, 07:22 PM

Well this is really going to be a big decision on your part. You have to choose if you want to go to court and ask that your visitation be enforced or modified (but if they are very busy on all weekends then even a modification would probably end up back in court to be enforced) or to let your kids do their activities. Do you talk to the ncp? You could try to find weekends that can be worked in so that they are each able to do one or two activities but have a couple weekends free. If this dosen't work you will have to go back to court and ask a judge to work it out.

ScottGem · Nov 17, 2008, 07:37 PM

This is not an uncommon problem. As children grow, they develop their own interests and have their own activities. You will need to adjust to their lives because they are less likely to adjust their lives for you.

Fr_Chuck · Nov 17, 2008, 09:13 PM

I will be blunt, this is a choice you make when one of you moves away from the other.

If you moved then you know it was going to be harder, if she moved there is not as much you had to choice from.

But you can either use the courts and force the kids to come to you and miss their other things.

Just be sure the other partner is not puttnig the kids into more and more things, just to keep you from seeing them, this also is more common than people want to admit.