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jamesanderson · Nov 15, 2008, 07:15 PM

I am engaged to a girl and will be marrying her in a month.I was introduced to her by my sister in law about 8 months ago and we have been chatting ever since.we love each other a lot.but recently 1 month back her school friend(guy) took her out for a movie 9 pm show with other friends too now this guy had proposed to her earllier after she was engaged to me so she refused his proposal.. and after watching the movie he tried to get physical with her kissed her neck two times.. she left rite away... and has been very honest to me about the incident and was very sorry for what has happened... I have forgiven her and I am going ahead with the marriage... but all this has left one very serious effect... this incident of him kissing her and her going out with him for late night show has left me depressed.. I felt like I am cheated... and due to this I have developed erctile dysfunction... can drugs like viagra help me.. coz I will be marrying her in a month.. help

linnealand · Nov 15, 2008, 11:30 PM

... is this for real? You've known the girl for 8 months, and you've been "chatting ever since." what does that mean? How well do you really know this person?

I'm assuming you're very young. (maybe too young to be posting here?) I find it very hard to believe that you have such a big problem with the fact that this guy made a move on her (if it was actually only two kisses on her neck) that your manly parts have been utterly traumatized. Shouln't you be able to completely trust the person you're supposed to marry? If you don't trust her, then why are you rushing into a permanent commitment with her? Is your real problem with the situation the fact that she went to the movies with him (and other people), or is it the fact that *he* made a move? She even decided to tell you about it. She didn't have to, you know. Have you considered the possibility that you're completely overreacting about this? You're talking as if this little incident has virtually crushed you emotionally, physically, as a man... everything looks overboard to me.

If you think you need viagra, schedule an appointment with your doctor and wait for him to laugh in your face, especially if you're as young as I think you are, and especially if he hears the reason for it. No, I don't think you're going to find a prescription very easily, but what do I know.

Without knowing anything about you other than what I've gotten from your post, I think you're still much too young and immature to be jumping into something so adult, serious and permanent. Sorry if this has come off as a bit harsh; that's just my opinion.

EDIT: your post from one week ago says that you've known each other for 6 months and that you're getting married in 3. would you care to explain these inconsistencies?

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Alty · Nov 15, 2008, 11:54 PM

Darnit, Linny, I had to spread the rep. :(

I agree with you 100%. The OP sounds very young and immature, also the other post shows a few discrepancies. I guess it's hard to keep your story straight, even when it's in writing.

OP, a bit more info please.

1. How old are you?
2. Is there more going on then just a guy stealing a kiss?
3. If you can't get over this incident then why get married?

Like Linny said, I don't think that any reputable doctor is going to give you viagra. You sound young, also, unless you have a history of erectile disfunction no doctor is going to prescribe viagra so that you can get a hard on on your wedding night.

This smells like a troll.

Synnen · Nov 16, 2008, 11:23 AM

How is it that he kisses her neck a couple of times and SHE is the one "cheating"?

Sounds like you have control issues -- you can't control your girlfriend, so you can't trust her, so you can't get it up.

Damned skippy I'd put off the wedding--more because you aren't mature enough yet to deal with all the consequences of marriage.

neverme · Nov 17, 2008, 06:41 AM

I agree completely with Synnen, issues.

smoothy · Nov 17, 2008, 07:32 AM

If its not a troll these are two people who aren't emotionally mature enough to be getting married yet.

Choux · Nov 17, 2008, 11:58 AM

Sounds like you are too fragile to have a girlfriend, let alone get married.

Take time to grow up and mature.

kp2171 · Nov 17, 2008, 10:29 PM

viagra/cialis/levitra won't help you.

Your block is mental.

Ed drugs help with physiological response tied to blood flow, but don't do a damn thing for desire and mental blocks.

You have a mental block. Time to work through this or step back. Talk to someone. Talk to her.

But seriously... you don't think any woman you are with will ever be hit on again after you date them? What... are they suddenly unattractive to the rest of the male gender? Doesn't work like that.