[ThirdBar]

I have known this girl for a while and we get on really well. She is everything that I want and am looking for in a relationship. We had been out a few times for drinks but had always been around other people so I had never really had chance to tell her how I feel. We would always flirt though so I think she knew. But after one night out she stayed at my house and stayed in my bed with me. We kissed and did some other things but did not have sex. The next day I gave her a lift home but I still didn't tell her how I felt about her.
Over the next few days we texted each other a lot and I asked her if I could see her because I had something I wanted to tell her. On the Wednesday we decided we would meet up on the Friday and that we would just go for a drive in my car and park up somewhere. I was really looking forward to seeing her and getting a lot of stuff off my chest.
It came to Thursday night and I text her just asking her if she had had a good day and if she was okay but she replied saying, 'Hey, I just want to let you know to clear things up that I think you are a really nice guy and stuff but I am kind of back with my ex, dead unexpected! Sorry x'.
After reading it I didn't really know what to say back to her, I was actually devistated. I asked a few of her friends about it and they all said that they kind of knew that they were going to get back together. I then asked them who this guy was and why they had broken up in the first place and they said that he had cheated on her and had just been a tool throughout their relationship.
After a couple of day I text her again and asked her if I could go and see her as I still wanted to tell her how I felt, so I went to the place that she works at, which is a bar, and had a few drinks there while I waited for her. She came out to see me on her break and we had a very short chat about it which kept getting interupted by other people. I offered her a lift home and she said yes so I waited for her to finish.
She finished work and while I had been waiting she had organised going out with a few friends so I said I could drive them and take them home later. Which again meant that there were other people in the car with us.
I dropped them off and then went for a few quiet drinks with some mates and waited till 3am which is when they wanted picking up. At 3 I picked them up and we went for a drive around, it was only 3 of us in the car. We pulled over on a carpark and I got in the back with this girl, we started writing messages to each other on the windows and I put my arm around her. We were getting on dead well so I told her how I felt. She said she wishes I had told her sooner and that she does like me. At this point it was close to 5am and the person left in the front of the car wanted to go home so I dropped them both off and went home. When I got in I text her asking to see her later that day, she said that was fine and that she was looking forward to it.
The next day I woke up around 12 and text her asking when she wanted me to go and see her, but she replied saying, 'im not sure if that's a good idea now. x'.

I just really don't know what to do, I need your help!!
Thanks.

[tickle]

The writing is on the wall. Forget her, she has been up front that she has someone else.

[insomniaticmeat]

You man honestly its not worth getting into.. if she really liked you she wouldn't have got back with her ex and would have said something it's a horrible feeling but there's nothing you can do and you know that guy who texts your girlfriend a lot and who you are always paranoid of? Don't become him because he's an haha

[talaniman]

Your leading with your heart, and not your head, as she is clear that she enjoys you as a party mate, and a dependable ride, but that's the extent of that.

Your wanting more, is your own idea, and it doesn't look like she is all for that. Back off, and save the confusion.