[amlacs2010]

Hi my parents that I have now won't let me know anything like her last name or even what my birth fathers first name is. I am 16 with red hair blue eyes and a lot of freckles. I was born march 24 1992 in marietta. They won't let me know anything until I am 18. I do know that when I was little and lived in avondale my birth mothers grandma lived three miles from us and they never bothered to tell me. Well heather if you look at this please contact me asap at EMAIL REMOVED FOR PRIVACY

[Synnen]

Well, my heart skipped a beat when I first saw this.

I'm the birthmom of a 16 year old girl, and my name is Heather.

The other facts are all wrong though. I know where my daughter lives with her parents, and it's not in the south.

Honey--your parents might have VERY good reasons for making you wait until you are 18. What have they told you those reasons are? They may ALSO have had very good reasons to keep you from your biological grandparent--what if she were an alcoholic, or unstable, or had a history of abuse or something?

You really need to have a little trust in your parents right now. I have contact with my daughter's adoptive parents, and deliberately do not interfere with my daughter's life. Yeah, I could maybe visit, but honestly---I feel that she needs to understand that her adoptive parents are great parents who are every bit as loving and important to her as any biology could ever make them. I love her completely, and of course I wish I knew her better and could talk with her and hug her and tell her I love her---but I'm really nothing more than a stranger to her, regardless the biology involved.

Why do you feel such a need to talk to your birthmother anyway?