[ttal_87]

Yes I been trying to get pregnant but it seems that I can't conceive what sahll I do.:(

[J_9]

How old are you? How long have you been trying?

[ttal_87]

Well I'm 20 yrs old and I been trying for a year and nothing. But the thing is that I had got a shot for like 2yrs agoa and I didn't have a period for about two yrs in jul 08 and this month so I tried again and nothing yet I have a daughter but she is getting big and I want another baby but its just not happening.:(

[ttal_87]

Please help me figure why I can't get pregnant

[DoulaLC]

Since it has been two years since the shot, and you have been trying for a year, you may want to consider seeing your doctor to have some testing done.
It may just be your body is still getting back to regular cycles, but there are ways your doctor may suggest to help with that. Sometimes being on birth control pills for a short time, even though it sounds counterproductive, can help hormones come back into balance. There are some herbal supplements that may also help depending on what the problem may be. First thing would be to see if there is a definable problem that can be dealt with.

[ttal_87]

Thank you for answering my questions. I talked to a soctor about it they isn't willing to help mw cause when I was pregnant with my first child. They found out that I had pancrititus. Which they thought it was my gal bladder which I had told them I had surgery when I was 15 so finnaly they ran some test and they couldn't find out what was wrong with me but till this day they can't figure out and they won't help me until I found out what's wrong with me and what's causeing the pancritius to react but they want me to seee all these doctors money that I don't have right now so I ho,d back all my appt. I just want help to get pregnant so that's what I'm going to do is that... but thanks for helping

[super gurl]

If you don't have the money to see the doctors then are you sure you are ready for another baby?

[ttal_87]

Yeah cause there is always help out there to help you out when you get pregnant. The reason I say that is because if I go to my doctors appt. is cause they always want money down before I see the doc. And it adds up but there is a plan that if you are pregnant they will bill you when your pregnancy its over and you can pay in payments...

[ttal_87]

But I'm so ready for another baby my daughter is about to be three and she has nobody to play with so that's y I want to bring a brother or a sister in the world...

[J_9]

there is always help out there to help u out when u get pregnant.

Please, I hope you aren't talking about welfare!! I work hard and pay taxes to support people on welfare who have babies just to get a bigger check. Please don't say I am callous or rude, but I deliver babies in a rural hospital for a living. I am a licensed registered nurse in labor and delivery and I hear this all the time. It just sickens me that people expect money for having babies.

they always want money down before i see the doc.

This is because us nurses and doctors have a job to do, it's to take care of you. We deserve to get paid, we work hard for that paycheck. If you can't pay us, how are we supposed to feed our families? Should we ask for handouts too? To pay our student loans that are in the thousands of dollars, for some even hundreds of thousands of dollars... No, we work for a living.

and it adds up

And it adds up even quicker after the baby is born. What if you were the mother of the infant I took care of last night? The one who will be in the hospital for months on end because of complications. Who's going to foot that bill?

I'm sorry to be so harsh, but I work hard for my money and I don't think I should be giving it away if you can't afford the doctor for your pregnancy. If you can't afford the doctor, you can't afford the child.

but im so ready for another baby my daughter is about to be three and she has nobody to play with so thats y i want to bring a brother or a sister in the world...

OMG, this is the most selfish thing I have ever heard in my life!! A 3 year old cannot play with a newborn. Plain and simple.

[ttal_87]

I know that but she plays with our friends baby's and to me she loves baby's and I know they can't play with a newborn but when they grow up she can.

[J_9]

Then wait until you can afford it. If you can't afford a doctor, you surely cannot afford formula, diapers, food, clothes, doctor bills, vaccinations, etc.

I don't even want to tell you how much the hospital bill will be for the infant I had last night, will have tonight, tomorrow, and possibly for weeks to come. You can't predict the outcome of every pregnancy.

[ttal_87]

Well you say that I can't afford the pregnancy or the doctor or a baby well how did I do it the first time and to me I think my daughter is in the best of health and me and her dad gives her everything she wants and I can afford a doc. And to be pregnant just put your shoes in why shoes and you will see what I mean its really hard these days I don't know who you are and don't know your life but I just want answers to help me...

[ttal_87]

I know what the doc. Bill looks like my husband has a good job and I know he can afford. Cause he would do anything for his daughter. And in the future

[J_9]

well u say that i can't afford the pregnancy or the doctor or a baby well how did i do it the first time and to me i think my daughter is in the best of health and me and her dad gives her everything she wants and i can afford a doc. and to be pregnant just put ur shoes in y shoes and u will see what i mean its really hard these days i dnt knw who u are and dnt knw ur life but i just want answers to help me ...

I can't read a word of what you wrote. Please review the site rules, text speak is not permitted and can be deleted.

I have been in your shoes, I have 4 children. But I planned on them, I paid for them by myself, with the help of my husband. My oldest child is older than you.

I did not rely on public assistance to pay for my doctor, I paid for it myself. Yes, it's hard these days!! But if you can't afford to pay for a child yourself, don't get pregnant.

[ttal_87]

But if you don't want to help me that's fine I don't know why we are talking about our lifes. If all I want is answers to my questions that I ask but thanks for you time and your answers I really appricated.

[J_9]

Look, we are talking about this because you say that there are programs available to you if and when you get pregnant. Who funds those programs? ME, THE TAX PAYER!! That's who. So, if you can't afford the doctor's bill... DON'T GET PREGNANT just to have a playmate for your 3 year old. Many only-children have had wonderful lives without siblings.

[ttal_87]

Yeah but I want a big family there are a lot of familys out that don't have money and keep getting pregnant and I c them getting help for it why can't I?

[J_9]

Go for it... get on welfare... depend on us taxpayers who work for a living and we can't even put food on our tables.

Does it make you feel better to take food out of other childrens' mouths? Well, that's what you are doing if you end up on welfare.

[ttal_87]

My husbands pays taxes also and I'm not depending on welfare but it would be helpful,wont't u tell that to everybody that who are single moms and, low income people that don't have money to put food on the table do to they get blame also.. all I was asking is answers and you have to bring all this up about taxes and welfare I was just thinking about it but I have good innsurance that will pay for it... im just worried about the bill that's all
And besides I don't think I would get approved cause my husband makes too much money