[ohlife29]

Long story short-

These 2 girls- best friends for life... I met both of them over 2 years ago. (names "sue" "jackie")

They are amazing great-close -best friends and roommates.

Right after I met them. I broke up with a girlfriend of 3+ years. And I started to get to know both of these girls in equal ways.

As time goes on. We are great friends - I would say they are both best friends.

Sue likes me- a LOT- but over the year of knowing she has feelings I find no chemistry and keep the friendship what it is.

Jackie for the longest time was pushing sue to be with me but stopped 4-5 months ago. Within the past month I realize that I really like jackie a lot. Within the last few weeks jackie has realized that she likes me a lot. We have talked and want to take it to the next level.

Sue is basically getting "ran over" here. Sue knows what is going on, and it is hard for me to watch her get hurt (as a friend) and to watch myself and jackie be so happy.

Any advice or thoughts about the current situation? I understand the tight friendship connections we all have (all 3 of us) will break down... close to jackie and further from sue. Comments?

Jackie and I will be making things official this weekend

[450donn]

Don't date either of them until everybody is comfortable with the situation. I guess that may mean that the three of you sit down and have a heart to heart conversation about your friendships and the possibility of two of you dating and how the third will feel.

[JBeaucaire]

Ah, the risks of the heart, huh?

All you can do is be honest and kind without lying about your intentions. You and Jackie can start dating (the next level?) if you wish, and Sue will have to be aware from the start.

Will she be hurt? Yeah, but that can't be helped. You don't lie to protect yourself from someone else's unavoidable pain. It is what it is.

When you choose one thing, it risks others. But you still do it if you ever want to find a lasting love companion. This stuff is unavoidable.