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famousdork1 · Nov 9, 2008, 05:08 PM

okay, so there's this guy, me and him dated last year, in 6th grade; but it wasn't a real relationship, it as just a little fling. But me and him dated again this year, and it was pretty serious. He told me he loved me and of course I said it back, because I actually believed I did love him. So some drama came up. I found this note in my locker and appartley the guy a dated "wrote it" but I wasn't exactaully sure. I confronted him about it,and of course he said he didn't write it. I didn't believe him, I broke up with him, and then a few minutes later, I found out that I was stupid too let him go, I asked him if he would take me back, and he said "i'll think about it" I said okay and all. A few HOURS later, I asked him if he was done thinking then he texted me back and said "i have a new girlfriend" I was so upset. I started too cryy. Now, my question is, should I try too get over him? Or should I keep trying too get him back? I still really love him.

BlackVY · Nov 9, 2008, 05:17 PM

Sorry to say this, but I'm not sure you know what love is yet. If a note in your locker can make u break up with someone you "love", then I don't think that's real love.

Furthermore, in your post, you said "i actually believed i did love him"... so that implies that you aren't really sure if it was love or not... and even then, you said "did", as in the past tense, so you don't love him now.

It's a little confusing, but I think you are not sure on your idea of love and what it really is. I think you should take time out and concentrate on yourself. This guy ain't really ideal, I mean, you ask him back and he says he'll think about it, but then hooks up with someone else. I think you could do better than be with someone like that. Tell yourself you deserve better, and move on. One day, you will find out what real love is. Good luck

famousdork1 · Nov 9, 2008, 05:21 PM

Thank you so much. I understand I'm probually not in love with him. I just had deep feelings I should say? But I believe I can do way better. Thanks again.

BlackVY · Nov 9, 2008, 05:25 PM

Originally Posted by famousdork1

Thank you so much. I understand I'm probually not in love with him. I just had deep feelings i should say? But I believe I can do way better. thanks again.

That's very mature that you realized this and agreed.

I half expected you to argue with my statement and say it is love, but I'm glad you didn't. Strong feelings can get confused for love a lot of the time, but when you are truly in love, you'll know the difference.

Glad to see that you believe you can do way better. People may tell you this, but you can never really get better unless you believe you can get or deserve better, so go for it. Best of luck :)

famousdork1 · Nov 9, 2008, 05:44 PM

Oh,one more thingg. I don't know if I try too make friends with him now, because right now, me and him are upset at each other. So, should I just keep it the way it is, or should I ask for forgiveness? I'm just upset that he went out with another girl less than 2 hours. That really ticked me off.

BlackVY · Nov 9, 2008, 05:50 PM

Well you did ask for forgiveness when you asked if he would take you back right? Well, that would be enough. He knows you are sorry for breaking up with him over that note, but he still started going out with this other girl, so from my point of view, you made a mistake, said you are sorry, he knows you are sorry, but then did something bad to you by dating this other girl, so I don't think you have anything to be sorry for.

What I think you should do is give it time. When you both have calmed down, maybe you can be friends again, or at least talk to each other, but right now, you are mad at him and he is seeing someone else, so it's a very fresh wound. Give yourself some time, then see what happens.

famousdork1 · Dec 5, 2008, 10:22 PM

okay well, me and and him have been friends for about 2 years, and we've dated this year like 2 times(on and off relationship) and i screwed thingss upp, now i despretley want him back .. like seriously. i think about him all the time; i never stop. i think about all the great times we've had at school, the kisses; the hugs; everything. I've asked my friends too help me out but he always says "no" and stuff like that. All i want is for me and him too be back together again. me and him don't talk as much,or anythingg.

i found out he likes another girl that i don't know very well, and he has her on his binder and everythingg! and i makes me madd. I just need help on how i can get him back? i really NEED him, nothing is right anymore now that he's out of my life. I was really in love with him, and i don't think he understands that.

i think he still likes me, even though everytime someone asks him if he still likes me he denies it :/
i just don't understandd.

8120joy · Dec 11, 2008, 08:55 AM

Unfortunately I think you need to get over this and move on... it sounds like he already has despite anything you had before.

If you having problems forgetting him, don't let yourself spend time thinking about him, distract yourself, spend time with your friends and doing other interests/hobbies that you have...

kctiger · Dec 11, 2008, 09:12 AM

Hmmm... have you thought about doing any of the following (or even a combination):
1. Volunteer
2. Enroll in some college courses (anything that peaks your interest; doesn't have to be something that counts towards a major)
3. Get a job, or get another job (nothing wrong with making money while you are depressed)
4. Help others out on this board who feel down
5. Exercise A LOT!
6. Realize you DON'T NEED ANYONE!!

You have too much to live for. Get your head out of the sand and start getting out. Life has a lot to offer if you accept that certain things just shouldn't be.

wolfgangqpublic · Dec 11, 2008, 09:15 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

2. Enroll in some college courses (anything that peaks your interest; doesn't have to be

Good advice, although by the sounds of it this girl is probably only 13-15.

kctiger · Dec 11, 2008, 09:18 AM

Think you may be right... I just read the last couple of paragraphs. Well, there are still a ton of activities she can do. Being that young, it sucks getting hooked on someone.

Rachel005 · Jan 21, 2009, 09:41 PM

If he finds a girlfriend that fast and keeps you hanging on the line while he's doing that he's not worth it and leaving notes in a locker is stupid and so immiture form a guy that tells you he loves you. Get over him you'll find someone so much better than that