[AMC08]

I(20 yrs old) have a 10 month old daughter and I am 8 months pregnant. Both children are from my ex fiance(30 yrs old). The abandonment is recent, September of this year. He abandoned us knowing I had no job, no income what so ever, and knowing our house is in foreclosure and I had no place to go with my kids.

He has visited a total of, at the most, 10 hours and when he felt like it. He had gotten married a month after he abandond us. He neglected to tell me, yet those 10 hours he did come he attempted to work things out with me so that he can come home. I found out he was married and his wife was blaming me for him cheating on her. Both, his wife and I had many calls, words, and text messeges as well as threats of physical harm.
I am 8 months pregnant. I have been dealing with more then I should and have already and been put through enough emotional damage and harm from them.

I requested that they both leave me and my children alone that we have been put through enough. He, of course, doesn't mind not coming around, he just doesn't want to sign over his rights. His wife on the other hand said that she will have visitation with my children and said she will have them. I never met her, niether have my kids.

My ex is an unfit father who cannot stick to commitment. From school, the marines (he is considered awall), to his 6 year old son, our relationship and kids, as well as his new marriage. He has a record consisting of domestic violence, drug use and abuse, as well as alcohol use and abuse. He has spent countless months and nights in county jail as well as months in prison, last time in '05. I was unaware of this until the welfare office told me. I believe he has a alcohol problem because at the end of our relationship he was drinking everyday at least an 18 pack if not more. Those 10 hours of visitation he showed up smelling like beer or he stopped to buy some before we would go to the park or would buy one before he dropped us off and open it, down it,then take off.

My ex also has a 6 year old son with another. The mother of his son is requesting full parental rights upon other things. My ex is an unfit father for all his children. He neglects them especially his son. While we were together I was the one who went above and beyond to get his son for visitation etc. When his son would come over he would sleep or drink with his friends. I do not want my children to go through what his son unfortunately had to go through. I'd rather him not be around at all then come around when he feels like it. (holidays)

I fear that his wife will attempt something to get my children,(she had threatened this already) I don't know how because I am a fit mother who has taken child safety classes, I am attending College, and have no substance abuse problems what so ever, as well as no record. But I know that people can be sneaky and lie to get what they want. I do not know her and the only words we have talked were not on great terms. I also fear that if my ex has the right to take my children somewhere I will not get them back or he will be drunk while with them.

I would like to have all rights and no contact with either one of them because I have been emotinally drained and fear that any more emotional or physical harm will cause long lasting damage to not only myself and my unborn but my daughter as well. I'm tired and if I have to be stressed about anything let it be the only thing I should be worring about, finding a place for my children and myself.

What can I do to prevent his wife from contact with me or my children (legally)? How can I get full custody/sole custody? How can I prevent visitation from both of them?

[stinawords]

Well as many have said on here you are the greatest factor in who fathers your children you choose to have sex with someone knowing that there is always a possibility of pregnancy no matter how slim that chance no protection is 100%. That being said you will have to fight him in court. You petition the judge for full physical and full legal custody but there is no such thing as him signing over his rights unless you have been married to another man for at least one year that wants to adopt. You will have to prove his alcohol abuse to the judge and have proof of any other claims you have as to why he shouldn't get visitation. However, he is likely to still get supervised visits.

[ScottGem]

If he is truly AWOL, then report him to the Marines. That will get him out of your hair for a while.

The possibility of getting his rights terminated is slim. If you can prove his alcoholism and abuse, you MIGHT get a TPR on his being a danger to the children.

Don't worry about his wife as she has no legal standing.

But you really do need an attorney, especially if he or she gets one. An attorney will know what you need to prove and the possibility of getting a TPR.

[AMC08]

If he is truly AWOL, then report him to the Marines. That will get him out of your hair for a while.

The possibility of getting his rights terminated is slim. If you can prove his alcoholism and abuse, you MIGHT get a TPR on his being a danger to the children.

Don't worry about his wife as she has no legal standing.

But you really do need an attorney, especially if he or she gets one. An attorney will know what you need to prove and the possibility of getting a TPR.

How would I go about reporting him to the Marines? And what exactly is TPR?

I thank you your advice helped me out a lot.

[stinawords]

A TPR is termination of parental rights.

[ScottGem]

Call ANY Marine Base or go right to Quantico. Tell the operator you want to report the whereabouts of an AWOL Marine. They will direct you.

[stinawords]

Being AWOL isn't taken lightly. Just look up your nearest base and call there they will either connect you with someone who will take the information or tell you what number you need to get ahold of.

[Fr_Chuck]

OK, you hire an attorney and file for full custody, even proving violence he will be given at least supervised visits if he asks for them.

Every thing else does not get you custody, merely gets back at him, ** who you thought was a good choice when you sleep with him