[satswid]

Hi friends;
This is my first ever post. Please forgive my english

The story (MY LIFE) starts:

The Proposal
I am in love with a girl since 16 yrs (I was 5 that time) and I sware its true. She lives in a small city. Our parents are quite like a family. We used to meet just one or two weeks a year as both the families live in different cities that are far away. I loved her since childhood but never got the guts to say my feelings as it could have an effect on our friendship and I may loose her even as a friend. In all these years, I was infomed about her emotional relationships with others(boys 2 or 3). Last year, when she and her mom visited our place, I finally told her my feelings. She was quite upset and told she can never agree and I must look for someone else but I denied and told I cant. She went home. After one month, I visited her place and continued to show her how much I love and care. But saw that she didn't care at all. I returned. After I returned, I just gave her a call. I don't know what happened but when I asked her "How are you?", she disconnected the line. I thought it's the end and never called her until after a month she gave me a call to ask "what happened?, why are u not calling me?". I told the reason and she apologised for the behaviour. We started texting (SMS) each other and one day I was shocked when she said she share the same feelings. I felt like heaven as she was my first love and I never expected this.

Love
We texted each other for the next seven months and in between, I went to her place and we romanced (just kissing and carressing). She was always sure that she will marry the choice of her parents. I told her that I will not force you for anything (not from the heart), and everything settled. We continued texting each other (more than 40 SMSes per day). We shared many things about our lives. She told me about her first love and the other boys and I was cool as it was the past and she was not physical with any of them. She talked to me and said she loves me very much, that days and I was so happy.

Twist is here
Two months ago, she got some calls from unknown boys. They made friends with her. And some even called (on phone) her daily for hours. She was very excited to have such friends. I was also cool. But then, a sudden change occurred in her behaviuor and she stopped taking me that seriously. She slowed down on texting me and even didn't bother to give a call. I asked her the reason but she said she don't want to answer my question. One night, I got an SMS accidentally by her to one of her friends late at night : 12:30 having written "Good Night -- Bye- - God Bless you Dear". I was shocked. She usually use to sleep at 11.


Today
Today, I asked her that can I get back my loving girl who loved and cared for me so much. She said its impossible and now she will not change for anyone. She also added that, "Now, Everyone in my life have same importance, May he be one of my friends or u" This sentence shocked me. I was wondering that, Is my 16 yrs love equal to two months of unseen friends. I told her, that whenever you feel like you love me as you did before, that day will be the day, we talk agiain. Till then no communication. She said "As you wish". I know she didn't care.

I am afraid if she got maried, I will loose her forever.

Questions:
Before you answer - I can't LOOSE HER. I WANT HER BACK
I love her a lot. I cried a lot after I send her Good Bye tonight. I am feeling so sad.

1. How can I get her back?
2. What I did was right or wrong?
3. And if you can answer - What happened to her, Why she changed her attitude suddenly?

[talaniman]

Questions:
Before you answer - I can't LOOSE HER. I WANT HER BACK
Not realistic, since she is not with you is she?!!!
I love her a lot. I cried a lot after i send her Good Bye tonight. I am feeling so sad.
I know how hard it is to accept, she has changed on you.

1. How can i get her back?
Thats up to her, and I seriously doubt she WANTS to get back with you.
2. What i did was right or wrong?
You did nothing, you both just grew up! Thats life.
3. And if you can answer - What happened to her, Why she changed her attitude suddenly?
She has grown up, and wants to see what life is all about, thats what young people do! so must you.

Her change was not sudden, you just never noticed.

[satswid]

Thanks Talaniman, for your time and effort