[Dorothy83]

After a 5 year relationship with the only man I've been I met this guy that I liked he was a friend of a friend we always go out with the same friends so after a couple of months and dates I slept with him that night we had a date and he asked me not to go out with other guys.We didn't see each other on a regular basis cause I wasn't sure if I waned to be in love again we were both scared.he even told his friend but we kept sleeping together and doing stuff togethet.The thing is lately he's been acting like a huge jerk... doing stupid things I even think is on purpose is horrible cause I realize I'm in love... It sucks so much he was so fun and a good friend. Even if I tried not to see him it was hard cause of a group of friends. The worst was we all went out and he pay no attention to me and danced and left with another girl right in my face. I was sad and angry so I got drunk and called him and told him how much of a he is. (very bad) my friends saw me crying and I am so embarrass I feel bad cause they are in the middle and I will miss hanging out with everybody but I can't see his face. I just can't belief Im in love again with a jerk after a beautiful relationship. I'm so hurt. Any advise will be very appreciated.:0(

[talaniman]

Very sorry Dot, but I think you learned to late, he was a jerk. But chalk it up, and give yourself some time, and move on. Again!

[atreyusmommy104]

It may be hard to be around him but if you have mutual friends and you want to still be their friends I say you still go out with them regardless if he is there. It will make you a stronger person because you are showing that what he's doing isn't phasing you at all. (even if it is) Just don't let him see it.

[Wondergirl]

I hope Santa brings you a bag full of punctuation marks for Christmas!

As for this guy, it's over. Put your chin up and move forward. We kiss a lot of frogs before we find our prince. Sleeping together is always a mistake until you are absolutely sure this is your prince. Otherwise, you become invested emotionally in him in ways he never does with you.

You can choose to be miserable and not be with your friends, or you can choose to put a smile on your face and put this behind you as an important lesson you have learned. In your own mind and heart, thank him for being a good teacher.

[Dorothy83]

A little more info

I was very angry so I said how I feel and was tough.
That was the first time I actually admit having feelings for him
And I regret it so much.I don't think I can see his face.

Its funny cause love is suppose to make you happy but my feelings for
Him make me so confuse and rejected.

[EN Ken]

You mentioned that you're in love with a jerk "again" so I'm wondering, does this mean that you've been in love with jerks in the past?

What I'm about to say may be extremely offensive to you, but it's not meant to be. I'm just trying to highlight something that may be true.

When a person always finds themselves in one type of a relationship, they have to look at the constant in those relationships. For a long time, I was in love with girls, but they never liked me back. For a long time, I blamed the world and I blamed the girls that I cared for, but I came to realize that the only constant in all those situations was me. I came to the realization that if the same thing happened again and again, and the only thing that was the same in each of those situations was me, then it must have been something I was doing to create those situations.

The reason I ask if you seem to only keep falling for jerks is if that's the case, then I would venture to say that perhaps you're attracted to the wrong type of man. Someone who always ends up in the same types of relationships over and over are bringing that upon themselves.

With all that said, my heart goes out to you. I know the feeling you're describing and it sucks really bad. I hope you feel better soon.

[Wondergirl]

a little more info

I was very angry so I said how I feel and was tough.
that was the first time I actually admit having feelings for him
And I regret it soo much.I don't think I can see his face.

Its funny cause love is suppose to make you happy but my feelings for
him make me soo confuse and rejected.

YOU make you happy -- love doesn't and other people don't -- YOU are in charge. That's why I said you choose how to feel. It's all up to you.

And remember happiness is a journey, not a destination. There is happiness in everything. You just have to look for it and find it. You have the freedom and choice to do a positive spin on something to find the happiness in it -- you were happy when you first knew him, you are happy now that you know what he is really like. Of course, you can wallow in grief and misery, but what does that do for you. Not much, plus crying makes your face all red and blotchy and ugly. Like I and others have said, put a smile on your face and carry on. It's your choice.

[Dorothy83]

En Ken this is the first time I have feelings for somebody
That don't deserve them. I said that after having a great relationship for 5 years Im in love again with somebody that has issues but he changed when I stared to feel for him.Thats why I don't want to care or feel for this man cause I love myself and now I deserve to be in a good relationship.but sometimes things get out of our hands and he play me.I also feel bad cause now there's a awkard situation with my group of friends.But thank you all for your advise I will use it to review myself.

[EN Ken]

Well, that's great to hear.

Things will be definitely awkward for a little while at least but as you become more comfortable with the issue, so will your friends.

Best of you luck to you.