[Wondergirl]

I don't pretend to be Freud, but do you remember getting frustrated as a young person and getting angry about things, or is this more of a recent development?

Why do you say the officers' wives are dumb?

Give me a "for instance" about the kids not listening to you. A lot or just once in a while?

[Wondergirl]

I remember turning 29 and thinking it may as well be the end of my life. I had one child by then and couldn't imagine being 30 (ancient! ). And all I felt I was good for was washing dishes and making meals and cleaning house (and with a bachelor's degree too), and no one cared about me and my brain at all.

[needhelp kutchs]

I used to get frustrated a lot as a young girl , so I met the first man I met when I was 19 years old to escape from my home where my parents ( both hi-profile educationists) were always fighting.I completed all my education after marriage.

I find the other ladies Dumb because they do not talk about anything other than clothes , jewellery and discussing other women's private lives... I feel disgusted looking at them.

[needhelp kutchs]

... So I married the first man...

[needhelp kutchs]

Wondergirl can't we talk on googletalk?

[Wondergirl]

I find teh other ladies Dumb because they do not talk about anything other than clothes , jewellery and discussing other women's private lives....i feel disgusted looking at them.

I totally understand that! I'm not a hair and nails person. I am clean and dress well enough, but can't stand to endlessly talk about stuff like that or other people. I would rather talk about religion or politics or ideas or books I've read.

[Wondergirl]

wondergirl can't we talk on googletalk?

I've never downloaded that. I have MSN and Yahoo messengers. How do I get googletalk?

[needhelp kutchs]

Do you have a gmail account?

[Wondergirl]

I googled it and found it! Yay me!

How about I download it and we chat on it in about 24 hours from now. I should go to bed soon. (It's 12:42 a.m. here and I am supposed to work at the library Sunday afternoon.) Could you wait until then, until my evening on Sunday?

You're on the other side of the world, I know.

[needhelp kutchs]

Sure wondergirl see you soon. Good night and sleep well

[Wondergirl]

sure wondergirl see you soon. Good night and sleep well

Wait just a minute! I want you to do something constructive until then. What could you do?

[Wondergirl]

Craig, are you still there?

[needhelp kutchs]

You tell me what to do ?

[Clough]

Oh, I think that chatting outside of this thread wouldn't be good for maintaining the integrity of the thread. If you do that, then it's very difficult for others to know what information exchange has taken place. Others may also come along who might have similar issues and having all of the information about responses to the original question might also be a great help to them with similar issues that they're having in their own lives.

Other folks might also be able to really give some great advice, but would be reluctant to do so because they don't have all of the information because they know that some of it's missing from the thread.

For one thing, I didn't come on this thread and made effort working on it thinking that it would just go off somewhere outside of this site where I wouldn't be able to participate. Please do keep things on the threads after they've been started. Doing anything else, like communicating in other ways, outside of posting on a thread would not be keeping in the spirit of why this site exists in the first place.

Thanks!

[Wondergirl]

ya tell me what to do ?

How about if you deal with the children differently somehow. If they don't listen, sing your instructions to them or whisper your instructions to them (like a secret) or write your instructions in block printing on paper. Do the unexpected. Shock and surprise them. Get away from the ordinary.

Also, write something. Anything. How about stream of consciousness about the Army wives and what they do and how you feel about what they do? Just let it all out. No one will see it except for you.

[Wondergirl]

Good point, Clough! So let's continue on with this thread for a while and see what happens. Whatever we could do on Googletalk, we can do here. After all, we are courageous and inventive people!

[Wondergirl]

Don't tell the children you will do things differently. Just do them. You want to keep the children a bit off balance, so you won't be so predictable to them. Life is an adventure!

I have more ideas for the future.

And mentioning Googletalk and then saying we will stay with the thread is instructional for anyone reading this.

[needhelp kutchs]

I am writing and feeling much better... :) Ya craig is right let's just stick to this thread... after all it is here that I found help... someone else too might be helped by my problem and its solution:)

[Clough]

Hi, needhelp kutchs!

I'm still here, but very tired. Would you be willing to vent some by writing something on another thread that you might start on this site? Doing so might help you to gain some self-confidence and self-esteem that you really seem to need. Depending on how you respond, I can direct you as to how you might do it. If you don't want to do it, that's okay too.

Thanks!

[needhelp kutchs]

You, I am tired too... lets meet up sometime later bye :)