[vipriya]

Me and my boyfriend are in realtion for 7 years . But unfortunately things are not at all proper between us. I committed a really big mistake by sleeping with an another guy and I told about this thing to my love after really long time although always he used to ask me about the truth I use to say him a lie. But I didn't want to cheat him so finally I accepted the truth. I really love him. Now he don't want to settle with me.I have apolozised him so many times. I know he loves me too.help me out how should I make him believe that I have changed and will try getting back the trust. The mistake I did was unintetionally . I was scared to tell him because I know he will be broken. I love him like mad help me out to get him back .

[TrueFaith]

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... I mean... Why... its just... wait... yeah.. umm. Please...

Why when you say you love someone you bang someone else. I mean.. and then go ohh sorry yeah.. ummm my bad can I have you back now.

And you get upset that the trust is gone and the person does not want you back...
And you think there is a special way to get that person back..

You call this a mistake.. and it was unententualy?? What did you slip? Uh?. was there butter on the floor or something?
Ohh yeah that's right you was tricked...

It happens.

You was scared to tell him because you knew what would happen.

Listen when you step on someone's foot then you say sorry.

When you sleep with someone else.. sorry just does not cut it.

And now you have to live with what you have done.

7 years down the drain. Trust is gone

There is no pitty here.

Some moral judgment would do you good

He is a smart man not to go back with you.

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[samira786]

Make him meet u, sit with him and then apologize to him. Talk to him about your mistake. Ask him to give you anothr chance. Try finding out why did you do that, and let him know about it... If still he dsnt want to lsn 2u. Then leave him alone 4sumtym. Give him sum space. Let him get ova with this shock. Make HIM miss u.n show him that you really regret. If u cont. call him he will think you needy. It happens.. If u don't make mistakes how would we prove that we are humans... :) . But see to that you don't repeat it later. Because trust me it REALLY DOES HURT..

[talaniman]

You lied, and cheated, and broke the trust, and faith, in this relationship, and its unrealistic to think he will just forgive, and forget.

Leave him alone, until he gets over the shock, and hurt, on his own, without your influence. He may want to try again, he may not, but for sure right now, your presence will only remind him of the hurts YOU caused.

Those are the consequences of your bad decision, and its up to him at this point, what he does about it.

Leave him alone.

[vipriya]

Things happened with another guy was not more than a french kiss... and I was drunk that night so I didn't realised... but I want to really get back to my love.. I cannot think of settling with any other guy help me out... I will better give up my life instead settling down with anyone... I really love him.. to the core... as I didn't want to cheat him.. I accepted the truth... I was feeling really guilty as I was hiding things... but now I have accepted everything... I was with him day and night in all my 7 years of relationship.. we never treated each other as boyfriend or girlfriend... we were together as partner... we use to tell every small thing to each other... all my outings was with him.. we use to meet everyday after college at least for an hour... we use to be on phone all night.. I really want him back... cannot imagine my life without him... help me... :) I am not able to stop my tears... its been a month now... :(... help me

[vipriya]

Things happened with another guy was not more than a french kiss... and I was drunk that night so I didn't realised... but I want to really get back to my love.. I cannot think of settling with any other guy help me out... I will better give up my life instead settling down with anyone... I really love him.. to the core... as I didn't want to cheat him.. I accepted the truth... I was feeling really guilty as I was hiding things... but now I have accepted everything... I was with him day and night in all my 7 years of relationship.. we never treated each other as boyfriend or girlfriend... we were together as partner... we use to tell every small thing to each other... all my outings was with him.. we use to meet everyday after college at least for an hour... we use to be on phone all night.. I really want him back... cannot imagine my life without him... help me... I am not able to stop my tears... its been a month now.. . help me

[aaj2008]

1. He's gone honey. You cheated on him and hurt his heart and you think he is okay with that? 2. Put yourself in his shoes... after being lied to after all those memories together.. would you really be by your girlfriends side? 3. Its been a month... move on.. meet new people.. 4. Learn from your mistake... 5. Even if you are drunk you still know what's going on so I call bs on that one.

[TrueFaith]

You DARE to say that.. it was the drinks fault!


If your life together was so imporant

And worth so much. And that guy meant nothing to you.. Yet he was worth messing up your relationship

You didn't like the replys in your last thread so you post another one to get a different one.

He is gone... there is no trust.
He will always use that against you when you get into a fight.

Do yourself and him a favor and move on.

[aaj2008]

I'm not a christian or anything but... AMEN SISTA! :)

[TrueFaith]

Was nothing more than a french kiss??

You foolish child!


It not what you did, you prat.
Its your actions!

And as for the drink.. you can sod off on that one.

Please Just say

Yeah I did it.. OK learn your lesson and move on

But Do not down play what you did!
And blame it on the drink!

Have some self respect women.
And be responsible for your OWN ACTIONS!

[talaniman]

Maybe your solution is to change your behavior, as it's a little late to be thinking of all the good things you miss, when you threw all that away in a drunken french kiss? Stop getting drunk.

[vipriya]

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Believe me I know that I am wrong... that's why I am regretting so much for the mistake... I want to heal all his painsi gave him.. I don't want to loose him dear... I know its all happeing because of my stupidity... there is not even a small ray of light which can help me to get back to him... I have learned lesson from my mistake... help me I cannot live without him... I am having sleepless nights... I am afraid that I don't take any wrong step... I just see him everywhere... feel him everywhere... there is not a single place where I didn't went out with him... wherever I go I feel his presence... even when I sleep I just see him... help me to get back to him... I relly love him... I want to be with him... regretting badly for the mistake...

[vipriya]

I know I am being punished for this... I know you trying to make me undretsand... about the fact... I have been so close to him... I cannot live without him.. I am being true about my love for him... all my friends and my cousins say me I have gone mad... will end life without him... I need him... I cannot live with this...

[only333]

Sometimes there is nothing you can do except wait. In the meanwhile your behaviour and actions should make him feel that you care for nobody other than him.

[talaniman]

I think we all can understand your pain, we sympathize greatly with your loss regardless of the reasons behind this, and not trying to be blunt, get off the pity pot, and focus on moving forward, and learning from this experience.

Eventually you will have to accept what you have done to yourself, and forgive yourself, so you can do better for yourself.