[2mature17]

I am 17 and I'm the most mature 17 year old I know. I have endometriosis and pcos. I've been trying to get pregnant for along time and cant.My boyfriend(21) and I both agree we want it. I no what everything would cost and the change in my life it would make but I'm homeschooled and looking for a job and my boyfriend has a great job and is going to college. Would it be wrong for me to ask my doctor for help?

[DoulaLC]

Maybe consider making sure you have a bit more of a commitment with your boyfriend first. If you want to be together, and raise a child together, consider getting married before the baby. Have a joint banking account that you will both contribute towards and build up an emergency savings, make sure you both have life insurance in case something happens to the other (if he has a great job, he should either be able to get it through his work or be able to afford it on his own), you need to be sure you and your child would be covered in the event something happens to him... or that he and the child would be if something happened to you. It would also be wise to finish school and make sure you can support yourself and a child well... life does not always turn out how we envision, and all women should be able to support themselves fully, even if they never have to.

Whether you think it's right or wrong, your doctor may look at the situation a bit differently if you are married and trying to have a baby at 17 as opposed to not being married and trying at 17 with your boyfriend.

Make an appointment with your doctor and discuss things with him/her. Always a good idea to go over your history and discuss what the best course of action for you would be when you are considering getting pregnant.

[Fr_Chuck]

I am sorry, no matter how mature you are, you are not ready to start this phase of your life, you need to do the other phases, graduate high school,
** home school but graduate

You need to get married or at least be living with this person for several years and get a relationshop with him first.

I would even suggest go to college first so you can get a really better job,
** you can be married in college

But let things come all in their own time,

[ashley0716]

Please don't look at this as what YOU want, but what would be best for this potential child. I am 23, married for 4 years, in college, my husband is active duty, so he makes great money and our healthcare is taken care of, and we STILL weren't ready for our baby (I was 21 when I had her) No matter how mature a 17 year old you are, you are not ready for this responsibility. It isn't always about money, it's about living situations (and not necessarily about you and your boyfriend being married) and about providing this child a stable environment, with proper medical treatment. These things are all very very important. Please wait, children are wonderful blessings and will still be in 5 or 10 years!

[LearningAsIGo]

I can understand being mature at 17; I very much was myself. However, part of really being mature is understanding that you are too young (and therefore unready) to take on the responsibility of a child(ren).

Why all the insults on your age? Because you are living at home, not yet finished your education, and have no real financial stability. My cousin's daughter was born (healthy) while they had no health insurance... the baby was 10 years old before they paid off the medical bill of over $15,000 for her birth. Your looking for a job? Would you work full time while raising the child? Would your boyfriend be able to finish college, work, and take care of a family? Have you looked into the cost of daycare, health insurance, life insurance, clothes, toys, food, strollers, schooling, utilities, transportation, or housing?

I know because of your diagnosis, you're probably feeling very eager to start trying to conceive. When I was 19 I had ovarian cancer and ever since I was afraid I could not get pregnant. However, I waited knowing it was best for a future child. Now that we're married and out of college, we're trying. It felt like a long wait, but it was the wise choice for our family.

I hope you make a wise choice and don't rush into this. You and your boyfriend have plenty of time to develop as a couple and as your own family before bringing an innocent life into your parents house.

[homebirthmom]

I can't possibly agree more with what everyone is saying. I was 26 when I had my son, and I'm sooo happy I waited. I don't have the financial stability I wouldv'e liked to have, but so far so good... thankfully.
Endometriosis doesn't necessarily negate you from having children later on. Give yourself time, and when it happens, make sure you have a good support system.
Talking with your doc is not a bad idea by any means, though he/she will probably advise you against concieving at this point. Your body is still growing/maturing and throwing a baby into the mix, could confuse things.
Good luck, on whatever course you choose.