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mizmilli86 · Oct 27, 2008, 10:43 AM

My boyfriend actually broke up with me last Tuesday. It hurts. He says he feels that he is not in love with me anymore, and he also says he wants to be single. I believe he fell out of infatuation. He says things that did not bother him before, not annoys him. I believe since things were not the same as before, maybe he thought that it was not love anymore. I actually went through the same feelings a couple months back, and thought he was so irritating, but I went through the stage. I think he's at the stage, and decides that it was not love anymore beciase things were not the same as in the beguinning.
We been together for over three years. The funny thing is the weekend before we had a great time. Actually every weekend was great. If he did not love me why did he continue to caress my hair, to say I love you every night, to hold my hand, and to continure to see me and watch movies with me. See, I would think if he was falling out of "love" wouldn't he be the pne pushing me away, and not make plans with me, but he didn't. He was the one who wanted to rent movies so we could them, or call me to chill. I was in shock because I thought we were happy.

He also said he is having stress with school, and feels like he not ready for a relationship or commitment. We have not talk since Wednesday. I really don't know what to do. Oh, I'm 22 and he 23 if that helps.

kctiger · Oct 27, 2008, 10:52 AM

Sounds to me like he was trying to do all those things to make himself feel that he does love you, when in reality he does not anymore. Once someone says, "I am no longer in love with you," it is over, flat out. The only thing you can do is move on, accept it and try and distance yourselves for awhile. Focus on yourself and do what you have to do to be a better person. He may or may not come back to you, but that is irrelevant. Heal yourself, and DO NOT worry about him. Be selfish!! You are the one that matters now.

talaniman · Oct 28, 2008, 08:08 AM

I think he is very clear as to what he wants, and I think you should give him the space he wants, and rebuild your life without him.

Sorry for your loss, just heal, and learn.

commitment · Dec 2, 2011, 02:48 PM

Oh dear, am so sorry for you, I feel lost too at the moment because first he told me to go steady and now he isn't even talking to me saying he's always tired after work, I really wish he did'nt come back in my life because the hurt felt even worse :(