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    dipset225 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 27, 2008, 10:44 PM
    Is this totally wrong?
    My ex broke up with me and we went strictly NC for over a month so today I wished her a happy birthday and asked her how her party went.The conversation only lasted about 2 min. I am not trying to get back with her or anything even though it was tempting to talk about our relationship and it hurt a little... what I wanted to know is did I do the right thing?
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    Oct 27, 2008, 11:36 PM

    I think you took the high road, and in her heart I think she knows you still care, even as a friend. Of course she might be wary of you trying to come back into her life, especially if she doesn't want it; but to contact her on her birthday or other special occasions in her life is nothing to be ashamed of and is not wrong.

    Don't be ashamed to still like her or love her, shout it to the world, heck tell her if you like. She doesn't have to like you back, it sounds like your love is unconditional, as all love should be.

    You seem like you are respecting her boundries and not being a stalker or anything like that. I don't see anything wrong with contacting her with a caring heart on occasions like her birthday or Christmas, etc. It tells her you still care, and even if she doesn't care for you back, that's OK. Maybe someday your kind and unconditional gestures will show her the love you truly have or had for her or maybe not.

    You do what is right for you so long as her reaction isn't one where she starts to be scared or something like that, then your kindness may be hurting her and if you love her, I know you will back off and give her some space perhaps until her next birthday.

    I don't see anything wrong with love. Nor should you.
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    Oct 28, 2008, 12:31 AM

    You did good

    I would recommend in going back to N.C
    Unless you can handel just being friends

    All the best!
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    Oct 28, 2008, 03:33 AM

    It's not wrong, and since she broke up with you, I trust she will handle it just fine.

    Now stop thinking about it and get back to your current life. She is still a pleasant memory and needs to stay there. Don't let that call start you wondering... "what if....."
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    Oct 28, 2008, 06:51 AM

    You did it, and now its time to go back to your own life. Breaking NC, stirs up old feelings, but get back on the path.
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