[SweetDee]

If you're young and "past things" can be troubling for you... then "being fresh" is safest.

I just think that by the time you marry someone you should be ready to settle down with one person and want to begin to share your life together and get old together.

It's a natural state of mind or behavior to want to sew some wild oats before you settle down.

This is a very controversial subject. You either believe in absinance or not. I simply do not.

[lovebug2140]

Ehh, I wouldn't trust him right off the bat like that.. make him earn your trust first.. I lost my virginity with my boyfriend of almost 2 years when I was 15.. and I still wish I wouldn't have.. honestly if he's not willing to wait for you.. don't do it.

[Lovebug08]

Maybe I'm a couple days late but here's my two cents:

I agree with templelane;
It's good to keep yourself busy while you're young. All the stories kids have to tell, is because they either Lie, or they actually did the stuff.

I'm 17 now, and I lost my virginity when I was 14. I was pressured into having sex by a guy that I was "Dating", and we talked and talked and talked about it. Until I "agreed". About 3days after we had sex, was the last time I saw that boy. I also found out, he was having sex with 2 other girls and "dating" them as well through out the period we were together. I was looking for love in all the wrong places as to say.

I spent a good period of my time after that seeing guys, going on dates with a couple guys, but never really devoting myself to any of them. I had stories to tell about work, school, going to state competitions, sports, and family stuff.

After ridding myself of most of the sex freak horndog guys that were attracted to me [mind I was 14 with a nice rack and passed as 17/18 all day] I found one that I really wanted to love, and wanted him to love him.

I was a tote bag for him to carry around it seems. Mike was his name, Mike had a job, and a nice car, and we hung out a lot. He met my parents, but never introduced me to his. Mike and I are still mutual friends after having sex, but... We never actually loved each other. He wanted love and so did I... And Coincidently,
While I was still being pulled around by Mike, I was at work one day.

There was a boy I crushed on at my old high school, and man is he cute! Anyway, that boy and I have been dating since I had just turned 16. We have been sexually active since day one of our relationship, another slight mistake, BUT, we both got tested before sleeping together, and both witnessed it. We were both pretty shady at first, and we "grew on each other".

I am 17, and I am now pregnant... If my "baby daddy" was any other guy I dated, I can guarantee I would be single right now. Recently, Chris, my boyfriend, has come clean and admitted, when we first started dating, he was "in it for a piece of ".

When we're young, and just want to be loved, we make foolish mistakes. And we can believe with everything that it's all real, and no one understands us.
But honestly, LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER. I neglected my mom in much of my teenage years, I heard what she said, but never listened. And in all honesty, the quote "mothers know best"... is the damn truth.

You probably shouldn't continue the relationship with this boy, if it hasn't already ended. He's admitted to having sex with the other girl(s) to be honest enough to nearly connect. He wants you to trust him enough to get his noodle wet. And, my best advice is to save yourself the agony of Loss, and tell him to get lost. Or, ask him to just be friends. Some guys will be your friend, some won't. I met one of my best friends that way, and he's wanting to be my baby's godfather. We never slept together, though he tried, and he talked about it... But we always remained friends.


Right now, you are still young. You shouldn't worry about being loved, you have a family to love you [believe it or not... and trust me I was a teenage rebellious kid too] Work on building friendships.. I imagine you're either in high school now, or will be soon... You'll meet some of your best friends in the next couple years. And you'll learn who you can trust and who not to trust.

Also, its okay to ask people for advice. Being young maybe neiter you or your friends know what to do! And you may always have a friend who says "go on and do it"... I had one.. And she's a crack whore now, but, She is still my friend, I just wouldn't drink after her if someone paid me to.
=]

Anyway, I typed you more of an essay than anything.
Hopefully you find some useful information and can relate my past with your present. STAY BUSY!

[Lovebug08]

Maybe I'm a couple days late but here's my two cents:

I agree with templelane;
It's good to keep yourself busy while you're young. All the stories kids have to tell, is because they either Lie, or they actually did the stuff.

I'm 17 now, and I lost my virginity when I was 14. I was pressured into having sex by a guy that I was "Dating", and we talked and talked and talked about it. Until I "agreed". About 3days after we had sex, was the last time I saw that boy. I also found out, he was having sex with 2 other girls and "dating" them as well through out the period we were together. I was looking for love in all the wrong places as to say.

I spent a good period of my time after that seeing guys, going on dates with a couple guys, but never really devoting myself to any of them. I had stories to tell about work, school, going to state competitions, sports, and family stuff.

After ridding myself of most of the sex freak horndog guys that were attracted to me [mind I was 14 with a nice rack and passed as 17/18 all day] I found one that I really wanted to love, and wanted to be loved.

When I was a sophmore, and started hanging out with my friends there was one friend that I just kinda.. crushed on secretively. We went rounds. arguments, late night hang outs, drinking binges.. We did it all. We both wanted love... And we both wanted to give love.. But that line of chemistry just WASNT there, the infatuation was but the love was not.

I was a tote bag for him to carry around it seems. Mike was his name, Mike had a job, and a nice car, and we hung out a lot. He met my parents, but never introduced me to his. Mike and I are still mutual friends after having sex, but... We never actually loved each other. He wanted love and so did I.... And Coincidently,
While I was still being pulled around by Mike [it was going no where, no dedication, neither of us were going to settle we just weren't right], I was at work one day.

There was a boy I crushed on at my old high school, and man is he cute! Anyways, that boy and I have been dating since I had just turned 16. We have been sexually active since day one of our relationship, another slight mistake, BUT, we both got tested before sleeping together, and both witnessed it. We were both pretty shady at first, and we "grew on each other".

I am 17, and I am now pregnant... If my "baby daddy" was any other guy I dated, I can guarentee I would be single right now. Recently, Chris, my boyfriend, has come clean and admitted, when we first started dating, he was "in it for a piece of ".

When we're young, and just want to be loved, we make foolish mistakes. And we can believe with everything that it's all real, and no one understands us.
But honestly, LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER. I neglected my mom in much of my teenage years, I heard what she said, but never listened. And in all honesty, the quote "mothers know best"... is the damn truth.

You probably shouldn't continue the relationship with this boy, if it hasn't already ended. He's admitted to having sex with the other girl(s) to be honest enough to nearly connect. He wants you to trust him enough to get his noodle wet. And, my best advice is to save yourself the agony of Loss, and tell him to get lost. Or, ask him to just be friends. Some guys will be your friend, some won't. I met one of my best friends that way, and he's wanting to be my baby's godfather. We never slept together, though he tried, and he talked about it... But we always remained friends.


Right now, you are still young. You shouldnt worry about being loved, you have a family to love you [believe it or not... and trust me I was a teenage rebellious kid too] Work on building friendships.. I imagine you're either in highschool now, or will be soon... You'll meet some of your best friends in the next couple years. And you'll learn who you can trust and who not to trust.

Also, its okay to ask people for advice. Being young maybe neiter you or your friends know what to do! And you may always have a friend who says "go on and do it".... I had one.. And she's a crack whore now, but, She is still my friend, I just wouldn't drink after her if someone paid me to.
=]

Anyways, I typed you more of an essay than anything.
Hopefully you find some useful information and can relate my past with your present. STAY BUSY!!

--I had to adjust some of it... Typing too fast made it seem odd in one of the paragraphs.

[Myhearthasgone]

Thanks everybody for your advice and thanks a lot Lovebug08 for helping... because you know how teens mind work... if you get the advice from a person who is a few years bigger than you are, you like listen to it more. But I took all the advices here =D.

No you aren't late =]
I am still dating him and like that but I kept my virginity and I will keep it.

[SweetDee]

My daughter is having a lot of the same peer pressures w/ boys as you are. She's 16 and she is CONSTANTLY being asked if she's a virgin.

She's a virgin even to anything "oral" but she lies about it so she doesn't come off as too straight edge. She doesn't FEEL straight edge, she just hasn't had a boyfriend yet due to her not being able to find love.

She tells me all the time how everyone in her grade is either a "player" type or too shy to let the walls down so she can really get to know them.

She wants a boyfriend so bad but her expectations to AT LEAST have a deep friendship and be CLOSE w/ them is something she notices that they are not able to do.

Boys mature at a slower rate than girls, that's FACT not fiction. My daughter is so pissed about that and she's dying for high school to end so real life can begin.

She wants nothing more than that the boys can grow up and be REAL and have a girlfriend for reasons other than the thing that lies between their legs!

As far as what to say about being a virgin. Say "Yes". But if you don't want to come off as prude just say you do "oral".

If you say you're not a virgin then the thing is that most girls that are that advanced ACT IT, though. Remember that.

I used to lie in high school too. It took the pressure off me and at the same time I got to "save face" in a highly sexually charge world.

Why do you have to be honest to anyone? Just be true to YOU...

[Myhearthasgone]

So I have decided what to do and I thought I should let you know.

...
I went out with him again, I like the way he care and like that I don't feel pressured or anything but he is still having sex with other girls even when I am dating him.

He said that he would stop if I build a serious relathionship with him. Yeah right I don't believe it.

So I'll let him go. Anyway it's not like my life would change without him but it would change if I lose myself to him and then regret it.

Thanks for your advice all!
I'll be back if I have any problems.
Again... thanks.

[BlessdWitTalenT]

My daughter is having a lot of the same peer pressures w/ boys as you are. She's 16 and she is CONSTANTLY being asked if she's a virgin.

She's a virgin even to anything "oral" but she lies about it so she doesn't come off as too straight edge. She doesn't FEEL straight edge, she just hasn't had a boyfriend yet due to her not being able to find love.

She tells me all the time how everyone in her grade is either a "player" type or too shy to let the walls down so she can really get to know them.

She wants a bf so bad but her expectations to AT LEAST have a deep friendship and be CLOSE w/ them is something she notices that they are not able to do.

Boys mature at a slower rate than girls, that's FACT not fiction. My daughter is so pissed about that and she's dying for high school to end so real life can begin.

She wants nothing more than that the boys can grow up and be REAL and have a gf for reasons other than the thing that lies between their legs!

As far as what to say about being a virgin. Say "Yes". But if you don't want to come off as prude just say you do "oral".

If you say you're not a virgin then the thing is that most girls that are that advanced ACT IT, though. Remember that.

I used to lie in high school too. It took the pressure off of me and at the same time I got to "save face" in a highly sexually charge world.

Why do you have to be honest to anyone? Just be true to YOU...

I was really disappointed by this. A monther telling her daughter to lie about her being a virgin or doing oral or whatever? That's sad. Up until I wasn't a virgin anymore I used to get asked if I was a virgin all the time. And I would say no. I'm a guy. I refuse to let something like being a virgin change me at school. I'm not going to lie about it. Why should I? Girls should be embarrassed they have been with so many guys in bed. Not be bragging about it. Guys take pride in having sex with as many women as possible because they just want to show off to other guys. Don't lie about being virgin or not. Its stupid. The truth won't make people like you any less.