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    mommyoftwins200 Posts: 62, Reputation: 2
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    Oct 27, 2008, 09:09 AM
    Its been over year and I cant seem to get over him!
    Me and my ex fiancé were together for 3 years and engaged for two, we were young at the time so there was a lot of immaturity. In April of 2007 I received a phone call from a girl that he was cheating on me with and she was pregnant. He denied it till he was blue in the face then moved to Miami and then a few weeks later I found out I was pregnant and he basically told me that they couldn't be his to go for an abortion. Well she had ended up moving to Miami with him, they got married and had a baby boy two 1/2 weeks prior to my twin daughters being born. Hes muslim and I am catholic so that made a lot of the arguments, I wanted my kids raised one way and he saw another. He basically told me that if I was not going to raise the kids Muslim that he wanted nothing to do with me or the children. I haven't spoken to him since August 8, 2007 and have not seen him since May 11, 2007. I still cry over him and still miss him derely, why I don't know because he hurt me so badly. He lied to me throughout the three years that we were dating, he even lied about school said that he was going for two years and never went a day in his life. I still talk and go out with his mom but it hurts to even do that. I have had one boyfriend since him but I just cannot seem to get over him, I don't know what to do. Help!:(
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    Oct 27, 2008, 09:15 AM

    My opinion.. and of course that's all this completely is.. Is you KNOW what to do.. and that is forget about this guy.. period. You have beautiful babies! I'm so happy for you congratulations! It is a blessing to have such wonderful little buggers that poop and cry and.. you ;-) still nice! Hun even if he came back tomorrow, look at what he is done, do you want your children raised by someone who lies and cheats? You have been blessed with those babies, maybe that is why you were meant to meet him.. Is it bad I totally believe in fate? Instead of feeling hurt for him trying exspressing that love with a hug to your babies, cherish the good, Forget the awful. Hope this helps
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    Oct 27, 2008, 10:16 AM
    What a terrible thing to go through. He was a lying jerk, but you have two beautiful children that need all your love, time, and attention. Get child support, through the courts, and give them all the love you can.

    Be a great mom, as I know you will, and someday you will be glad at the way things worked out. The other female may not be able to say the same. Do you have family supporting you now?
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    mommyoftwins200 Posts: 62, Reputation: 2
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    Oct 27, 2008, 10:30 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    What a terrible thing to go thru. He was a lying jerk, but you have two beautiful children that need all your love, time, and attention. Get child support, thru the courts, and give them all the love you can.

    Be a great mom, as I know you will, and someday you will be glad at the way things worked out. The other female may not be able to say the same. Do you have family supporting you now??
    Yes, I live with my parents because I do not have the money to live on my own, I have a job that makes $13.00 an hour, I had one making more but just my luck I lost it. I hate the hours I work now and the money is not good. I wish I could find something better.
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    Oct 27, 2008, 10:42 AM

    Courts... child support... don't ignore that. Love your kids enough to make their father provide resources, even if he won't provide love.

    Do it.
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    Oct 27, 2008, 10:45 AM

    The first cut is the deepest... ur going to have to move on! Life does go on!
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    Oct 27, 2008, 11:32 AM
    I wish I could find something better.
    You will. Your not in a bad place , but I can understand the disappointment that it didn't work. Your kids deserve child support, and child care expenses. You deserve everything the law allows. Get it!!

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