[Alty]

I'm glad that you came back and told us the truth. It's not always easy to talk about your life, sometimes it's far easier to talk about someone else's.

This women is best left in the past, it's time for you to move on. The only thing that I'm concerned about at this time is her son, he doesn't deserve this.

You said he needs a good whoopin, I think he needs a firm hand and a lot of love, but unless his mother is willing to get him help, he's on his own.

The mother has already managed to mess up her life, possibly beyond repair, but this kid is only 14, he has a long life ahead of him, he deserves a chance at that life, a chance he won't get living with this women.

If it were me, I'd call CPS, that's probably the best thing that could happen for this child, to be removed from his mothers care. But then again, he'd probably end up in foster care, and sometimes that's even worse.

I don't see a happy ending to this story.

[18goats]

Thanks Altenweg.
But that's the last thing I would ever do. Mother and son have a great relationship. Having the problems as they will. I would never turn her in to any authorities. I may have vbeen there and seen questionable things. But I would never disturb the life they share. It's a typical loving relationship between mother and son. I would never mess with that. Maybe improvements are needed, but that's none of my business anymore. I wish nothing bad on these people. After all, I used to love them. And we used to have 4 cats, a dog and a bird and we loved them all. It was not that bad at all.
I just don't understand why she wanted to try to hurt me in the end. That stuff hurts.

[talaniman]

Given her history with men, not surprising though!

[18goats]

Like I said before, I had to insure myself that I was not totally lost in my own head. Either I am crazy and don't understand too much, or the situation in that house of craziness is just not normal. Like Altenweg stated before, my story almost seems surreal. So unreal that people thought I was trolling. It's the first time I have ever told anyone what exactly was going on in that house. Besides her of course. And THAT was a mistake. She is in total denial. She didn't understand, I was not saying these things to be hurtful, I was speaking the truth. One thing I have learned from all this is that the Truth hurts people worse than lies. Much worse.
Next time I get into a relationship, I'm not going to think that things will just smooth out in time. What you see, it what you get...

[Alty]

18goats, you lived it and you survived it, now you're free. It's time to put the past where it belongs, in the past.

It's her life, yes, she's screwing it up and because of that she's also screwing up her child. She may love him, but she's not parenting him, and a 14 year old needs parenting, not a mom that's trying to be his "friend", which is exactly what she's doing.

There's a revolving door to her bedroom, a new guy every few months, her son sees that, do you think he respects her for that?

There are other fish in the sea, so grab a pole and start fishing. You threw this one back into the water, leave her there and walk away, get on with your life, you deserve better.