[Catherine857]

Okay so I know this guy he's about 23 and I'm 20 I'll be 21 in a couple months. We work together and awhile back I had thought he had a crush on me way long after he broke up with his girlfriend, but I made the mistake of telling someone I should not have told and they went and told him a bunch of different things and caused drama. This guy ended up being mean and cold towards me since then because of it until he brought it up to my friend one night at work. So my friend tried to get everything straightened out and told him that I didn't like him and that I tell her who I like, the guy asked her if I hated him and she had told him she didn't know at the time so after all of it he started being nice to me. The only problem I have now is that he has a girlfriend and there like really in love and all that but he's just been acting really strange towards me, like ever since last week it feels like he's trying really hard to be nice to me and when I have to call him over to do things for me at work he is nice about it which he wasn't before. I don't know if this means anything oh and ps- I don't have a crush on him or anything I just think it's a little weird after everything we've been through and most of the time he can be an a$$ towards me.

[NItEMArE129]

First of all, if you're in your 20's I don't know if you should be posting in the teens section lol.

But moving on to your question, don't read into it a lot. A lot of guys I know feel uncomfortable around a girl that likes them but they don't like her back. However, I also know a lot of guys that can act comfortably no matter what. Accept that he might not be able to stay the same when he heard you liked him and let that go because it's part of who he is. There's no point moping over it.

If he may have a "secret crush on you," keep in mind that he might just be feeling guilty about treating you badly and now he's trying to make amends. Don't read TOO much into a situation; sometimes it creates unnecessary drama. So accept his friendliness, but remember that it will never go past that unless you both want to, and you'll do just fine.

Toward your question about how he can still be a jerk to you, I give you this quote: "We're guys. Since when do we get anything right?" The truth is, yea we mess up. A lot.