[khans786]

Hi
Me and my husband have really good sex life but there’s one problem I like it when he sucks and kisses my breast, but he does not do that very often. How can I make him do that with out telling him about this. Any tips will be very helpful.

[smoothy]

What's wrong with telling him. Men can't read minds any better than women can. You are married. If you can't talk to him about it what can you do?

[Choux]

My experience is that one can't "make" someone do something, but suggesting some nice time spent focusing on the nipples while you are manipulating them slowly may help. At least it is a start.

Perhaps, there are cultural roadblocks at work here because you can't describe what you want??

[Dragonfly1234]

Why can't you tell him "honey, I really like it when you do this..."? I don't understand. If you're too shy to just bring it up, wait until he's actually doing it and at that moment, tell him you really, really like it.

But just out of curiosity, if you can't tell him you like that one particular thing, how in the world do you two talk about the rest of the stuff that goes on in the bedroom? I mean, that's pretty small compared to other things that should be discussed regarding sex.

Honestly, if you want to hint that you enjoy something, you say it right then and there when he's doing it. Men can't read minds. Eventually as your partner gets to know you better and as you open up to him more, he will have a better understanding of what it means when you moan a certain way, or if you move in such a manner etc, but for the most part, you like something, you tell him, he does it again. Simple.

[Fr_Chuck]

For heavens sake, "without telling him" how do you let him know all the other things you like,
You should be telling each other all sorts of fun things you enjoy.

[Xrayman]

Oh brother.

[CuteKami782]

Hey talking is great I don't know about you but I don't believe men are mind readers. And if you feel he's a caveman who won't respond to your words go with the visual tactic. Pour honey, or whip cream on your breasts and tell him to act like you're a sundae he'll get the point then. When he does start whispering how good it feels or moan really loudly.

[spyderglass]

When he is doing something you like say 'Don't stop'. A lot of men like when you tell them what to do while making love.

[neverme]

I find that talking during sex only enhances the whole experience for everyone involved, you get what you want and he knows it. If you don't feel comfortable enough to ask him to do it then I agree with the other posts go nuts when he does! :)

[linnealand]

I definitely agree with the advice that has been given. Talk and communication are good for every part of a relationship. And going wild whenever he goes near them is a great way to get him coming back for more. It's like the hot and cold game. Plus, what man doesn't like to think he has discovered a magic button... and can resist pushing it again, and again, and again... :)

Of course, there is the shy girl's version, which will also virtually guarantee the results you're desiring. There is no other way to put this, so I'll just say it. You can pretend it's happening accidentally. When you're riding on top of him, lean in. You don't have to use your hands. Using just the movements of your body, keep them bouncing right over his gaze. And keep letting your nipples brush over his mouth. He will latch on... I mean catch on. I promise.

[Xrayman]

I definitely agree with the advice that has been given. Talk and communication are good for every part of a relationship. And going wild whenever he goes near them is a great way to get him coming back for more. It's like the hot and cold game. Plus, what man doesn't like to think he has discovered a magic button...and can resist pushing it again, and again, and again... :)

Of course, there is the shy girl's version, which will also virtually guarantee the results you're desiring. There is no other way to put this, so I'll just say it. You can pretend it's happening accidentally. When you're riding on top of him, lean in. You don't have to use your hands. Using just the movements of your body, keep them bouncing right over his gaze. And keep letting your nipples brush over his mouth. He will latch on...I mean catch on. I promise.

Ahem. That was a very good answer, and the image is very er... stimulating. :o

[excon]

Hello:

Well, if you can't talk to him, I'd draw arrows on my breast pointing at your nipple with a note saying, suck here.

excon

[smoothy]

Hello:

Well, if you can't talk to him, I'd draw arrows on my breast pointing at your nipple with a note saying, suck here.

excon

Good idea... if all the hints in the world don't work... try that.

[linnealand]

... or you can finally put that old Y2K duct tape to good use.

While he's sleeping, stick your breast in his mouth... then tape him on. This should work for at least a couple of hours.

[kp2171]

Whenever a lover has said to me "suck here"... I've been more than glad to learn, listen, and obey...

All you can do is give him a fair chance, and that includes your talking to him, especially if linneas wonderful idea doesn't get the job done.

Perspective... most women cannot take a hard tongue thrashing at the cl!toris... its too sensitive... twice the number of nerves as a penis, much smaller area... but one partner absosutely LOVED strong cl!toral pressure with oral... it was the difference between reaching orgasm some of the time versus all of the time... had she not told me "harder" I would never have learned about her need... so speak up if you can.

[talaniman]

Do all of the above, and if that doesn't work put him in a head lock!!