[not_quite_there]

Hi, I am 27. Last month I met this amazing girl that is 22 at the laundromat. In 2 weeks we spent a lot of time together, and got to know each other very well, and came to like each other. I even told her that I am falling for her.

Then my job in the area ended and I had to move. Since I moved, we have been talking on the phone almost every night till early morning. Our conversations are amazing.

There is one problem. We are vastly different people. I have dated lots, and am not a virgin and have a small wild side. I am not a bad person but I haven't gone to church since I was about 13 or 14.

She was raised in a true Christian home. She has never really dated, or done anything physically with anyone. The though of it makes her nervous. She is very close to God compared to most people. She lives by the bible.

So we are very different but have something's in common. We get along so well. We love seeing each other and talking on the phone.

**** She cannot marry anyone that is not a true Christian. Members of her family don't think we should be together.

I want to move back to where she is to be together. She is so beautiful. Such a good, kind person. Very sweet and pure. I am in love with her. What should I do?? Leave her alone so I do not warp her or chance her being unhappy or stay in touch and get closer till I can move there and see if we can be together?

[Fr_Chuck]

Differences can be good, but it sounds like you are "christian" in that you were raised in a christian atmosphere you just have not been to church in a while.

Part of the idea of being Christian is that you are never good enough, and there is no earning a right. We are there by forgiveness. One of the strongest christians Paul, in the bible, used to be Saul and was responsible for the deathof many christians, but he found a new path. One only has to be accepting that she has this faith, and that it will require her to follow rules of her faith and her moral code.

[demonicevil247]

First thing that stuck out to me is that you said her family thinks that you should not be together. As long as she does not mind the differences in you this should not matter. She would be dating you not them. Biggest thing is ask her how she feels about that and the differences between you, otherwise you will always be wondering trust me. I am wiccan and lost someone cause I thought I was not good enough only to find out later that if I asked him, he was going to ask me to marry him that week.