[tiger_heat]

Okay, so here is my situation. I have been having sex since I was 15, and till this very day I am still sexually active. I am currently 19. So I don't think I have ever came before. Like when I masturbate myself, I orgasm etc, but I don't know if I came, I don't think I did. When I have sex with my boyfriend, he wants me to , but I don't know how, or don't know if there's something wrong with me. Like I've been practicing on myself, and nothing comes out. Is this normal? I want to be able to come... so yea, I'm pretty clueless. Any thoughts?

[Choux]

Orgasms are like unmistakeable, involuntary muscle contractions in the pelvic area... nothing "comes out"... the female urogenital systm is different from the men's system.

Women have eggs deep inside them... men have sperm in a milky liquid they shoot into a woman so the sperm will reach the egg and make a baby... thus, the human species is reproduced most of the time. :D

[mishelly3]

I don't totally agree with the above post some women when they have an orgasm due have stuff that comes out when they . Now most women don't but if you are one of those people that do don't worry. And don't worry sometimes we want so bad to have that orgasm with our guy but just can't but have no problem when were alone. It doesn't mean you won't ever have one with him it means you have to find that right position or it may take time. Don't get bothered by it though..

[linnealand]

A lot of women will climax only from clitoral stimulation, not penetration. Have you tried oral sex? Have your partner take his time and be delicate, unless you ask for more. Your job is to relax and enjoy it. Might help.

I know that some women have had their first orgasms with the help of a vibrator. If you feel like you want to give it a try (with your partner or on your own), consider getting one that stimulates the inside and the outside at the same time, like the rabbit made famous in sex and the city. You can even see examples of it working on YouTube.

Continue to learn about your body, and love it. You'll get there when you understand more of what your body wants you to do.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes this is where a lot of foreplay comes in, you teach your boyfriend what you like, how you like it, and so on.

[Xrayman]

I think your comcept of climaxing (coming) is flawed. Most women don't ejaculate. Men do.

When you say you don't "come" what do you think an orgasm is??

You come/climax but you don't ejaculate-get it?

Men come/climax AND usually ejaculate.

I think either I missed what you are trying to say, or you are totally confused as to what the terms actually mean.

[linnealand]

Xrayman, you're right! Somehow I missed that part of the OP's post. Let's hope she comes back to explain what she's really trying to say.