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    xcutesweetiex3 Posts: 5, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 20, 2008, 01:46 PM
    How do I get my boyfriend back?
    My boyfriend and I recently got in an argument this weekend, and it resulted in us breaking up. Here is what happened... I went to Central for Central/Western weekend. While I was there, I was visiting with my friends from my high school. When I left the next day, this guy that I don't even know texted me. This was our conversation...

    Ryan: Hey, you were in my room last night, I'm Devon's roommate and I wanted you to come back last night, your sexy and i missed you. Where do u go to school.
    Me: Western.
    Ryan: Well, i'll have to come see you sometime soon.
    Me: Yeah.
    Ryan: Well, are you busy this weekend?
    Me: How would you get here?
    Ryan: I would drive to see you, but where would I stay? your dorm room?
    Me: I'm busy this weekend, sorry.
    Ryan: with your boyfriend.
    Me: what
    Ryan: Someone told me something about some Keith kid, do you have a boyfriend? I hope not.

    **(my friend told me not to respond right here because we both thought it was weird how he knew so much about me, so I stopped responding to him.) Since I didn't respond, he said...

    Ryan: So, did you have fun this weekend.
    Me: Yeah, it was fun seeing Devon and all of my friends from high school.

    **end of conversation... **

    When I got back from Central, I told my boyfriend about this kid, and how he was texting me those things. Then, when he read the texts on my phone, he started getting mad about it. He claims that I was trying to "hide" it from him. I was not trying to hide it from him though because I told him about it and wanted him to know about it. He said that we need to go on a break, and that he will call me in a few days. I don't want him to hook up with anyone else during the break, and most of all I don't want to loose him. He is my world, and I love him so much. I feel sick to my stomach knowing that he is upset with me over something so little, esp. since while I was there, I did not say two words to the guy, I don't even know who he is. We all got introduced to him as a group when he walked into the dorm, and then he never came out of his room after that. I don't know what to do... :(

    Does anyone have any suggestions?
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    Oct 20, 2008, 01:55 PM
    To be fair I'd be mad if my partner was text flirting with some random person.

    Quote Originally Posted by xcutesweetiex3 View Post

    Ryan: Hey, you were in my room last night, I'm Devon's roommate and I wanted you to come back last night, your sexy and i missed you. Where do u go to school.
    Me: Western. You shouldn't have replied, or you should have said here you had a bf
    Ryan: Well, i'll have to come see you sometime soon.
    Me: Yeah. you told him he could come visit!!
    Ryan: Well, are you busy this weekend?
    Me: How would you get here?
    Ryan: I would drive to see you, but where would I stay? your dorm room?
    Me: I'm busy this weekend, sorry.
    Ryan: with your boyfriend.
    Me: what you should of said yes!
    Ryan: Someone told me something about some Keith kid, do you have a boyfriend? I hope not.

    **(my friend told me not to respond right here because we both thought it was weird how he knew so much about me, so I stopped responding to him.) Since i didn't respond, he said....

    Ryan: So, did you have fun this weekend.
    Me: Yeah, it was fun seeing Devon and all of my friends from high school.

    **end of conversation...**

    Does anyone have any suggestions?
    I'm sure your boyfriend will calm down soon, but you need to learn from this and stop leading other boys on
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    Oct 20, 2008, 02:05 PM
    I feel you should have stopped the conversation with the statement of you having a boyfriend. When you are in a relationship it should just be you and that person not any one else. He can't trust you there's nothing with out being trust. And honesty :p k just learn from it... if he loved you he would be back
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    Oct 20, 2008, 02:09 PM

    I know, but after everything and after I realized that I worded stuff wrong and I answered wrong, I texted the kid and said,

    "I just wanted to make it clear that I DO have a boyfriend because I didnt get a chance to respond when you asked that."
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    Oct 20, 2008, 03:26 PM

    Well just explain it straight out to your boyfriend. He should understand. Sit him down and explain the misunderstanding.

    Also don't worry about him hooking up over the break because if he does you have a lot more on your plate than a simple mis-understanding.
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    Oct 20, 2008, 03:42 PM

    Let your boyfriend calm down, the apologize by telling him HE IS RIGHT. Don't hedge, don't explain, take his side and own up to it. Then ask him for forgiveness.

    If he feels the need to get all speechy at that point, let him. Then apologize again and ask for his forgiveness. Then wait quietly until he gives it. Silence on your part with puppy dog eyes should help.
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    Oct 20, 2008, 03:51 PM

    Sorry if I had seen that, the girl would be on the curb.

    After the first line, looked sexy and wanted you to come back and missed you.

    After that you say sorry, or I have a boyfriend, or just don't text back,

    Sorry but you need to be real sorry ( you don't seem to be) and hope he will forgive you

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