[Muffin22]

We have been talking off and on for few months and we both are recently out of serious relationship. He seems to have fallen in love with me at some point and then got scared. We have kissed and hugged but that is it, because I want to take that part slow. The other day he told me he wanted to be friends for now, that he had been confused and he wanted to know if we could talk just as friends. Even though it really hurt I said sure. I am always your friend first anyway. Since then he has been talking to me a lot more, like we did in beginning. Do you think he loves me and is just scared or what? Cause I don't want to be just his friend, and I know he has cared more, cause he has admitted it in the past.

[Clough]

Hi, Muffin22!

What's the rush? You talk about taking things slow, then please take things slow.

Not everyone will want to get serious right away, especially after breaking out of a relationship where it might have really hurt to break up.

True love can take a really long time to develop.

My suggestion would be to communicate with him on the level of being friends, seek out ways to spend time together and have fun without pressure now to be in a love relationship like you seem to want.

I'm sure that others will also be along to address your question.

Thanks!

[Turambar]

It sounds to me like you both have turned an important corner. You both came out of serious relationships and found each other. It easily could have turned into a physical "rebound" relationship for you both but I am proud of you that it didn't.

Be his friend, let him be yours. That he still wants to be your friend shows that he cares about you beyond the physical. That is good news.

If a relationship develops when you are both ready then it will be stronger for being rooted in true friendship. And if it doesn't, well you will still have a good friend who knows what you have been through. You can never have too many friends.

[talaniman]

What's the hurry, enjoy the friendship, and see what happens later. If you can't handle friends, say so.

That's what taking it slow is all about!

[Clough]

Thanks for the private message, Muffin22!

I would have noticed your thread again here even without receiving a private message. If he's asking about what you want for your birthday, then that's definitely a good sign!

I'm also glad that you're taking things to heart about taking things slow and being patient!

Please do let us know how things develop between the two of you.

Thanks!

[Bural21]

Love takes time to grow, let things come your way. And relax. :) I wish you the best.