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dcrown09 · Oct 19, 2008, 09:11 PM

I'm a 32 year old male and I know this girl, she's 22, just out of college and she asked me if I wanted to go out sometime. The problem is I knew her when she was a teenager I met her when she was 15 and I was 25 I worked with her dad on their ranch. I was never attracted to her because well, she was a child and I thought of her as one and it never crossed my mind that I'd ever have feelings for her. Well it's been 7 years and I no longer work with her dad and she's no longer a child, I still see them all from time to time and I come by once in a while to see the family, sometimes eat dinner with them. She's home from college, for good and asked me if I wanted to go out to eat or see a movie. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years about 6 months ago and honestly I'm considering it. She's sweet, level headed, we know each other pretty well, her parents like me, and she's really cute. It's the fact that she was more of a little sister to me all this time and now she wants to go out, we get along very well and laugh about the same things and like the same music, I look forward to seeing her, and she really brings out the best in me, I'm usually a downer, but with her I'm funny and outgoing. I've always joked with her even when she was a kid and we got along good then too. I just never saw myself liking her, but now I do. What's weirder is we have the same birthday, we always joked we could get married and celebrate everything on one day, even her mom and dad thought it was funny. My parents told me I'd end up marrying this girl, they said that when she was 16 and I was 26.. am I a monster for considering this or a pervert? It seems like people are doing this more and more these days, not that it excuses it. Should I feel guilty about this? Any opinions would help.

rippedinside · Oct 19, 2008, 09:22 PM

I think that if you feel comfortable and she feels comfortable with whatever relationship you end up forming, everything should be okay. Age shouldn't be much of an issue, you both are old enough to understand what you are doing.

SimpleguyJoe · Oct 19, 2008, 10:22 PM

Yea if you feel you can give it a full hearted try go for it! I see this kind of stuff a lot today its not wrong she is a woman now and you're a man. It should be more of a plus that she brings the best out in you. I think you should have a harder time finding reasons not to go out with this girl. She seems into you and it really looks like you feel the same age should not spoil this.

JBeaucaire · Oct 20, 2008, 09:10 AM

I think the history makes it possible for you two to be GREAT friends. An awesome foundation.

Go for the friend thing right now, full boar, develop it.

You're both adults now. If your friendship is strong enough to include a migration to a "dating" mentality, let it happen. Don't force it, don't analyze it, don't fret it, just let it happen or not.

And when/if it does, resist the urge to analyze THAT. Date her in the here and now. You're adults. Act like it.

talaniman · Oct 20, 2008, 09:45 AM

Stop thinking, and have fun, and be friends.

lmnotok · Oct 20, 2008, 09:54 AM

Oh c'mon, enjoy the dates, if love happens, it just happens!

brkfstatiffs · Oct 20, 2008, 12:34 PM

I think if you have a connection with her, it's okay to see what is there. You are both adults now, and you never acted on it or thought of it when she was 15 and you were 25. Maybe it was meant to be this whole time who - knows. But see what is there, it won't hurt.