[terry71]

How to understand someone in that case my special guy with whom I had on and off relationship.we weren't a couple just romance kind.we used to worked together and that was problem seeing each other every day sometimes not talking not looking at each other.I confronted him about my feelings but I was refused and than he turn his back on me totally for some time he told me that he knew about my feelings only idiot couldn't see that .for weeks he didn't talk to me and than he found new job and suddenly I got massages from him and calls quite normal without any meaning .than I started wonder maybe he wants me still in his life I even visited him in his new place he invite me over there introduced me to his new friends but than one day he started being more with them than with me.I gave up left the place and tried to understand that is really over he is moving with new life .I don" know if he called me or wanted me for some time which was difficult for him and wanted me to support him and now he is over the moon with new people in his life.i don"t call him he doesn't call me.why he never in one way couldn't let me go.all the time I wonder what he is doing towards me has got meaning or not he keep me on very thin line in his life

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[AskJenny]

He can't let you go totally because he's not sure what HE wants. YOU be sure what you want and let him know that... just be prepared as I said earlier to walk away and mean it. IF he misses you; if you're the one; he'll seek you out... and if not; wouldn't you rather know that now than spend all your time, emotions on him only to see he was just treating you as a special friend all this time?
Sit down and have that talk with him... it's scary but at least you'll know then.

[talaniman]

I think its clear that this goes nowhere, and just don't waste any more time on him no matter what he does. Sometimes it hurts to admit that you are not very compatible together.

[terry71]

I decided to wait its been so far only one week since we last seen its like giving up cigarettes day after day not trying to call but I've been brave the only problem is that I think sometimes its like playing cat and mouse because maybe he thinks exactly the same how long should I wait and do my move towards him is going to be never I'm scared

[talaniman]

His actions speak louder than words, so move on. Yes I know how hard that is.

[AskJenny]

Not in his defense here but you know him; is he the type that is stronger than you and for his own pride would not make contact; although in your own heart you know he wishes you would or expects you to make that move toward him? Just a thought here. Not defending him at all but trying to understand him. You can either follow your heart or head and sometimes it is hard to know which to follow; you say trust your heart but others say no trust your head... you have to do what's right for you. We're here to give you thoughts and opinions to guide you in the right direction but only you ultimately know the correct answer for you.