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SimpleguyJoe · Oct 16, 2008, 11:59 AM

Ok so I've been trying very hard for NC with my ex, But is it still breaking NC when she tries to talk to me? In the literal sense of no contact one would think it is. Also when she does try to talk to me through myspace or texing. I just give her crappy 1-2 word answers like she gave me a few weeks after we broke up because she said she wanted to be friends then started ignoring me. So to me it feels kind of like a payback and is even semi enjoyable because I know it's starting to bug her.

Long story short it's not really bringing up any negative emotions in me so its got to be all right, right?

kctiger · Oct 16, 2008, 12:09 PM

Nope. NC is all about moving on. What it does by going strict NC is erasing all emotions you have for that person. You shouldn't even have the ability to get a hold of her, or her you. The only reason people ever contact an ex soon after a break up is some misguided thought of 'reconciling' their relationship. Perhaps you don't feel that way, but most likely sub consciously you have that thought and that is why you may like playing games with your ex. Whatever the reason, go NC period. No pics, no phone number, texting, email, Facebook or myspace, no nothing! For the next 6 months she does not exist! You don't even want to hear about her from your friends or even bumping into hers. She is a ghost to you right now… make it that way.

Romefalls19 · Oct 16, 2008, 12:12 PM

Yes it is breaking NC... You are only delaying the recovering process, so if you like getting kicked in the b@lls, feel free to keep on answering her texts and messages.

I stand by my stance, Myspace is the Devil!

I'm Romefalls and I approve this message

jjwoodhull · Oct 16, 2008, 12:13 PM

I agree with kctiger. If you're going to practice NC, you have to be strict about it. If your short answers are bugging her, think how much it would bug her if you didn't reply at all.;)

SimpleguyJoe · Oct 16, 2008, 12:16 PM

That should not be to hard to do Thanks. I also thought of the idea that maybe I'm not cognitivly thinking about her... but that pesky subconscious. Ok thanks for the advice, guess I was trying to bend reality to my will.

kctiger · Oct 16, 2008, 12:21 PM

It's hard and we aren't saying it won't be. Change your phone number, dump myspace, do whatever you have to do for YOU to be done with this. Make a stance today for YOURSELF to move on... forever. And, like Rome said, MySpace and Facebook are absolutely 100% EVIL. Even looking at her profile is breaking NC.