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nicole0789 · Oct 13, 2008, 02:20 PM

Ok so I just started no contact with my ex and I am not sure if I am going to make it. See the thing is the last time and saw him we were good terms and all but then I do not know I just got to hard for me so I started crying. Well I left the persons house I called him saying I needed to talk he never responded I called the next day and he answered we talked on the phone for over an hour and made a lot of progress. Well about an hour he tells me his phone may die and sure enough it died, I called back to make sure. So I tired texting him and calling him through out the day and nothing. Same thing with today. He has never done this to me and it really hurts because we were on great speaking terms. So I left him what I called "my final voicemail" I am going to try not text or call him but its going to be hard because I wanted to say good bye I wanted a little more respect I feel like I don't have closure. So in the end I am just going to ask everyone to give me support because I know it going to be hard

Fredj88 · Oct 13, 2008, 02:26 PM

If I can do it anyone can lol. My ex was literally my only friend for the last 3 years, right now I wish I could contact her its thanksgiving up here in canada, I'm literally alone eating a TV dinner but every day it gets a little easier, whenever you get that urge to contact him, come and post here.

Jiser · Oct 13, 2008, 02:29 PM

Don't do anything. Its over. Let sleeping dogs lie!

Watch a soppy film with the girls and do other girly type things.

Fredj88 the fact your ex was your only friend shows how co-dependent you might have become as well as the OP? In my opinion a relationship shouldn't be the only thing in your life!! Always have a mix of healthy friendships and hobbies.

liz28 · Oct 13, 2008, 03:44 PM

Sometimes you don't get closure and even though you might expect it, you might not get it. He got your texts and calls and he didn't want to be bothered so that was a sign to leave him alone.

Start your nc and in the beginning it is hard because your have urges to call but don't. As time goes by it will get easier. When thoughts of him enter your mind, think of something else.

h0llister · Oct 13, 2008, 06:10 PM

Time will heal your pain. Just do NC , if he cares he will call you, don't push him.

MiSSsy111222 · Jan 5, 2009, 03:57 PM

I'm here il support you :) I started no contact 2days ago... hard... but its for the best.

Romefalls19 · Jan 5, 2009, 04:18 PM

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ii-255006.html

That's a great support line for people going through the same thing.

kctiger · Jan 5, 2009, 04:24 PM

We have all been there... your pain is nothing new. We will support you, just make sure you keep your word and don't break it. As far as closure, it is all in your head. If you don't create some sort of closure for yourself, you will haunt yourself for a long time to come.

Just accept it is over, and rid yourself of every single thing that has a connection to him. Good luck! It sucks, but is is worth it.

expat2009 · Jan 5, 2009, 05:50 PM

I've been on it for weeks now and it's getting easier and easier. There's always a time between 9-10pm (when we used to talk on the phone) where I get jumpy and get the need. Just like an addiction! But I'm focusing on other things so that I get distracted and time feels shorter.

STICK TO IT! IT WORKS!