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    footballplaya32 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 10, 2008, 10:04 PM
    Is it possible to hate the person you love?
    There's this girl I liked for 2 years but I never made a move because I really hate her. We talk sometimes but its like she makes me mad every time :mad:. My guy friends tell me all the time that I should go for her but I always say no. she's the prettiest girl in the school :). I'm pretty sure now that I love her but I still hate her. The real question is, is it possible to hate the person you love? I'm not so sure.:confused:
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    Oct 10, 2008, 10:43 PM

    Maybe she a mirror to you meaning what you hate about her is what you really don't like about yourself... 'Ive done the same things and found some great loves when I let down my guard.

    Hope that helps...
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    Oct 10, 2008, 11:07 PM

    Wow its very obvious what you are trying to say. You think she's attractive but you hate her personality. Anyway why would you try and get into a relationship with a person you "hate"? It wouldn't work out in the long run if you dislike her from the very beginning.
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    Oct 11, 2008, 09:35 PM

    This maybe a case of lust not love. If you find her outer persona very attractive but possibly her personality is not so great, then you may be more prone to have conflicts of interest.
    I would suggest asking her on a date, and giving her a chance, just to see if you may just 'hate' her as a way to deny your feelings for her.
    But if it does not end up working, then there is no harm done.
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    Jul 27, 2009, 05:54 AM

    I agree with Mishelly often what we hate about ourselves is what we find in others to hate.
    You may also be holding on to images you THOUGHT she was that you may be finding you were wrong about and not wanting to give those misconceptions up.
    You could try talking to her and actually getting to know her for who she is you might be surprised.
    What kind of things do you hate about her?
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    Jul 27, 2009, 04:42 PM
    Here is what I got out of it...

    Quote Originally Posted by footballplaya32 View Post
    there's this girl i liked for 2 years... i really hate her ... she makes me mad ... she's the prettiest girl in the school ... i love her ... i hate her....
    It sounds to me like LUST, not LOVE. You want her, maybe because it's her looks, or because everyone else wants her, but you do too.
    Regardless of the possible reasons (good one mishelly3) you cannot truly "love" someone and "hate" them at the same time.
    As far as my opinion is concerned at least.
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    Jul 27, 2009, 04:45 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by prigrewal View Post
    you know hum sirf usi se pyar kerte hain jiski hume herkate pasand hoti hain u must be like something about her thats y u love her but the thing is you are not looking at her good things u have been jst focused on her bad things...dude jst go a head and tell her about ur feelings

    best of luck...
    Could you please type in english?

    I would call your post chat speak but I don't think it even qualifies as that.

    My brain hurts. We frown on this sort of thing here. There's a spell check to help you.

    Yikes!
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    Jul 27, 2009, 05:08 PM
    Year old thread closed. Remember to check your dates folks.

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