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heidi39 · Oct 5, 2008, 08:17 PM

I have been dating Rocky for almost 3 years and never feel he has told all the truth about he and a lady named Tammy is he hiding something more from me ?

JBeaucaire · Oct 5, 2008, 09:08 PM

Women's intuition leads you to suspect it, so I'm sure there's something there he's kept to himself.

So what?

AskJenny · Oct 9, 2008, 07:41 PM

You've been dating a guy for 3 yrs and still question Tammy? ASK HIM outright about her, who she is to him, they date... pretty vague question here for anyone to try to answer.

ISneezeFunny · Oct 9, 2008, 08:01 PM

Although I agree with JB about the whole "intuition" thing, I got to say, I've been accused of cheating twice and I have never done anything like it.

Are your reasons for doubting this guy justified? Do you have any evidence or even any reasons, or do you just "have a feeling?"

To be honest, if you start blindly accusing, this could end up badly. I suggest you bring it up and talk to him about it, but one of two things can happen:

1. He IS cheating on you, and he will deny, then be more "careful" about it.

2. He ISN'T cheating on you, and he'll wonder why you think this. If he's a mature guy, he will try to communicate you through this, however, I'm not sure how many guys are OK with their girlfriend trying to ask if he's cheating on her.

Regardless, if you do have a credible reason to doubt him, then do ask him about it, and talk to him. If you don't, I suggest you leave it alone.

teallytop · Oct 9, 2008, 08:16 PM

U need to tell us more stuff of what the guy does and what he says about her. And how long has Tammy been his friend or w/e if uve nown about then for a long time don't sweat it. He's telling you the truth.

JBeaucaire · Oct 9, 2008, 08:43 PM

No, the point of my post wasn't that there was probably SOMETHING he hadn't told her.

The point of my post was "So what?"

He doesn't need to explain his entire history, in detail. He has to BE a good boyfriend. That's it.

So, again, assume you are correct and there is something he's withheld. So... what? Is he a good boyfriend or not, that's the only criteria he owes you.

AskJenny · Oct 9, 2008, 09:12 PM

I still say if something is bothering you with this wonderful guy of 3 yrs relating to anyone in his past; you should ask him about it because it will continue to fester with you until you ask him and get it out in the open. Maybe she was just a friend of his, maybe a lover, maybe he loaned her money; who knows but find out for you before you drive yourself batty not knowing. If my boyfriend of 8 yrs had anything in his past, present or future I was concerned enough to write and ask strangers for advice for; you can bet I'd be asking him about it too!