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JudyKayTee · Oct 7, 2008, 06:45 AM

Originally Posted by zawatska

2 days until test time.

Waiting, patiently waiting - how are you holding up? It's been a long road for you. And your Mom? Is she going to have to face "him" in Court? That's got to be rough.

Keep your cool!

zawatska · Oct 7, 2008, 08:09 AM

My mom has her doubts now.. I told her I will never speak to her again if he's not my father because after all this?? I would be crushed. Its not like me and him are talking or I necessarily want him to be my dad because he's a butthole, but its just the fact that all these feelings are there now. I don't know if that made sense lol. My moms thinking back, "was he the only man"? I'm like OMG. He is appearing by phone... not in person.

JudyKayTee · Oct 7, 2008, 08:22 AM

Originally Posted by zawatska

My mom has her doubts now.. I told her I will never speak to her again if hes not my father because after all this??? I would be crushed. Its not like me and him are talking or I necessarily want him to be my dad because hes a butthole, but its just the fact that all these feelings are there now. idk if that made sense lol. My moms thinking back, "was he the only man"? im like OMG. He is appearing by phone...not in person.

You make me laugh! I FORGOT he's appearing by phone - well, I think that almost makes it easier than facing him - maybe - ?

I know what you mean about mixed emotions -

Fingers crossed.

zawatska · Oct 7, 2008, 12:47 PM

Tomorrow should be no big deal... me and my mom will take a test and thatll be it... when we get the results back is when ill be having a heart attack at age 20. Hahaha

zawatska · Oct 7, 2008, 01:18 PM

Tomorrow should be no big deal... me and my mom will take a test and thatll be it... when we get the results back is when ill be having a heart attack at age 20. Hahaha

zawatska · Oct 8, 2008, 03:50 PM

Okay my mom and I got our mouths swabbed, Rob appeared by phone (which was odd as all heck) and the judge said we will get something in the mail with the results, and a new court date so he can re-tell us the results... I'm so excited, but then again not so excited because I don't think even if he IS my father that he will try to have any type of relationship with me... and if he doesn't call me or acknowledge me within a week of us getting the results, then I WILL get him for support. What a shiiiity person huh? Oh well, you live and you learn. I can't be mad, at least I found out who my father was! Until next court date...

Katie

JudyKayTee · Oct 9, 2008, 06:00 AM

Originally Posted by zawatska

Okay my mom and I got our mouths swabbed, Rob appeared by phone (which was odd as all heck) and the judge said we will get something in the mail with the results, and a new court date so he can re-tell us the results... I'm so excited, but then again not so excited because I don't think even if he IS my father that he will try to have any type of relationship with me... and if he doesn't call me or acknowledge me within a week of us getting the results, then I WILL get him for support. What a shiiiity person huh? Oh well, you live and you learn. I can't be mad, at least I found out who my father was! Until next court date...

Katie

I thought of you yesterday - sat in an Attorney's office to talk about locating someone. Woman has serious health problems, her mother died very young, she was raised by her stepfather, Doctor would like family history - and she does not know her father other than a very common last name. No date of his birth. Apparently mother shredded her copies of everything a long time ago. It's going to be so difficult to find him! Attorney is trying to get Court Order to open records but so far that's been an uphill, expensive battle.

So even if your "father" wants no contact now at least if there ever is a problem you know where to look and who to ask.

And someday - who knows - ?

zawatska · Oct 9, 2008, 10:13 AM

True. I love you. :-)

JudyKayTee · Oct 9, 2008, 10:30 AM

Originally Posted by zawatska

true. i love you. :-)

Back at you - and you'll always know, how matter how this turns out, that you did you very, very best to get to know your "father," despite the odds.

Lots of guts, my friend, lots of guts.

Would you do me a favor and take a look at this: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/missin...ad-264459.html. You better than anyone what a painful search this can be, how upsetting the result can be, what it takes, and I am honestly worried because she is "only" 15 and apparently her mother is not aware.

Maybe we won't agree on this one but I will certainly value your opinion based on your experience.

zawatska · Oct 9, 2008, 02:45 PM

Okay ill take a look now...

zawatska · Nov 23, 2008, 08:11 PM

Okay so I'm still waiting for test results... does anyone know why the heck its taking soooo long?? I took my test on oct 8th

JudyKayTee · Nov 24, 2008, 06:43 AM

Originally Posted by zawatska

okay so im still waiting for test results....does anyone know why the heck its taking soooo long??? i took my test on oct 8th

I saw this and my heart jumped and then I read it and my heart fell.

I have NO idea why the long wait unless the Court/lab are really backed up.

And so the waiting game continues...

zawatska · Nov 24, 2008, 05:29 PM

I know Judy. I'm about to FLIP THE FREAK OUT. I will call them everyday starting tomorrow morning and ask them what's going on. I understand that out of state cases/ testing obv. Takes longer, I get that. But they told me Definitely 4-6 weeks... we are on our 7th week right now. =( and don't worry, once I do get the results I will PM you approximately 1,434,346568,34347673634636,346363636 times!!

zawatska · Nov 24, 2008, 09:30 PM

I wonder why though... perhaps until I turn 21 then he wouldn't have to pay support??

Clough · Nov 25, 2008, 12:03 AM

Originally Posted by zawatska

I know Judy. I'm about to FLIP THE FREAK OUT. I will call them everyday starting tomorrow morning and ask them what's going on. I understand that out of state cases/ testing obv. takes longer, I get that. But they told me DEFINATELY 4-6 weeks...we are on our 7th week right now. =( and dont worry, once I do get the results I will PM you approximately 1,434,346568,34347673634636,346363636 times!!!!!!!!

Hi, zawatska!

Why not post the results on this thread? You've already continued this thread for quite some length and the site is about asking questions and getting answers that are visible to all so that others might also benefit by the answers that have been given as well as the discussion that may have happened.

I'm sure that others would also like to know the results. I know that I'm one who's interested in what the results will be.

Thanks!

JudyKayTee · Nov 25, 2008, 06:16 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Hi, zawatska!

Why not post the results on this thread? You've already continued this thread for quite some length and the site is about asking questions and getting answers that are visible to all so that others might also benefit by the answers that have been given as well as the discussion that may have happened.

I'm sure that others would also like to know the results. I know that I'm one who's interested in what the results will be.

Thanks!

I'm sure she will do both - post (as she has always done) and also PM me. This is not an attempt to take it off the board.

Any private conversation has concerned identifying information which is inappropriate to post.

JudyKayTee · Nov 25, 2008, 06:17 AM

Originally Posted by zawatska

i wonder why though...perhaps until i turn 21 then he wouldnt have to pay support???

Good point - has this issue been raised at all? Was the petition for ongoing support, back support?

That's a good question - I'll be very interested in the answer.

zawatska · Nov 25, 2008, 08:33 AM

Clough I don't have the test results yet, which is the reason I haven't posted the results!! READ.

And me expressing my feelings about waiting so long for the results is helping others who may read this thread... other people may be waiting for their results also, and have the same anxious feelings that I do. And this thread can go on as long as Fr_chuck or judy or whoever says it can.

zawatska · Nov 25, 2008, 08:34 AM

And I can PM Judy all day... we've become close, and if I want to PM her asking her how her day was, that's appropriate and I will continue doing it!

jjwoodhull · Nov 25, 2008, 08:44 AM

I'm sorry this is dragging on so long. You must feel tortured! You've been really brave through all this so just hang on a little longer. You've made it this far, you're almost there. :)