[TheMaster170]

Hello people!

I got this situation and I would be grateful if you'd help me :)

The situation goes something like this:

A year ago, I fell in love with a girl in my old school who is 1 year younger than me. At the same time, I realized that she lived in my building. In the 15 minute breaks between classes, he used to sit opposite each other and stare (at each other). We would do things like open the door of the building for the other person, went in the elevator together and talk, etc. My friends used to tell me "That girl is soo in to you, you should go ask her number". So one day I did. And we started to change text messages and talk a lot more. Few months later and went to her and I said to her that I wanted to say something important. I said that I was in love with her and I wanted to know if she was too. She said that she thinked of me as a nice guy and that she thinked that was all she thinked of me because she loved another guy. I said "ok, but let's still be friends".
The next day her friends started making fun of me and making fun of what I did. I got angry at her and I started to back away from her.
But the problem is... I never stopped loving her.
Now I'm in the University and she's still on the same school. And sometimes I think like I should re-start text messaging her again but I don't want to lose my pride (and time for a girl I (maybe) don't have a chance).

If you were me, what would you do? Would you start to talk to her and continuing to back away from her?

Thanks for the help ;)

[pimp_mah_alpaka]

Id talk to her.. But let her know that what she did was hurtful (that she told her friends). Tell her that the trust yous once had is now gone.
Or get on with life. There are other girls out there- plus she likes another guy so there's no point in trying to change that. If she doesn't want to be your friend then fine, but its her loss

[talaniman]

You should have moved on, and gotten over it a long time ago, and as it stands, that's what you still should be doing, leaving her alone, and moving forward with your life.

[JBeaucaire]

If you think feelings for girls go away just because your relationships end, you're wrong. That seldom happens.

Part of growing up is learning to move on anyway. Those feelings will be with you for a while, but that's no reason to believe new feelings for new girls won't be coming right along. They will, as long as you aren't ignoring other girls.

Ignoring feelings for other girls IS A SKILL you need to be in an exclusive relationship, just don't do it before you ARE in one, OK?

[Romefalls19]

Yea normally I live by the whole "It's okay to lose your pride over someone you love
Don't lose someone you love though over your pride" line but you two never dated so there is really nothing there.

Move on and just accept that nothing happened and its better that way

[buymeanewlife]

I would also like to add (because I've been there myself when I was in high school) that just because you're friendly with a girl and you're attracted to and like her, it does not mean that you're in love with her. And telling a girl that is a sure-fire way to freak her out. That feeling is infatuation, and it's a completely separate thing from love. It can lead to it, sure, but it isn't love. Love is a much deeper and richer emotion, and you'll know it because you'll have spent a significant amount of time with someone, you'll have seen them at their worst, and you'll still feel a strong emotional bond with them.

So, to avoid this situation in the future, try not to confuse the two emotions. What you should have done was ask her on a date. That would have allowed you to gauge her interest without scaring the crap out of her. Also, you are not in love with her now. You are still infatuated. You will meet a new girl, and all the feelings you have for the old one will disappear and you'll wonder what you were thinking.