What does he mean?

ana101 · Oct 1, 2008, 10:35 PM

So I was dating this guy for 5 months.
Then all of the sudden he broke up with me.
After he broke up with me 2 weeks later he told me he still loved me.
And I just spoke to him again and asked if he still had feelings.
He said I have some feelings yes! Then said not to push it.
What does this mean

Wondergirl · Oct 1, 2008, 10:44 PM

All of a sudden, move on without him. Don't look back. Do NC with him.

Tyler-Durden · Oct 5, 2008, 03:10 AM

It's a little off topic but is that the Satchel Paige quote from the MLB Hall of Famer or is there another Satchel Paige out there?

JBeaucaire · Oct 5, 2008, 09:01 AM

He means he knows you two aren't going to end up together, but he acknowledges he still has feelings. He's smart enough to know feelings don't go away, but when the match isn't a good one, they should be ignored.

You don't seem to have grown up to that ability yet.

You have to make choices with your mind, not your heart. The heart doesn't care about facts and truth and compatibility. The heart is a big fat baby that wants what it wants.

You have to be smarter than that. Your ex is smarter than that. Now it's your turn.

TangiMH · Oct 5, 2008, 09:03 AM

Maybe your boyfriend just wanted to take a break and there was something in your relationship that made him quit for awhile. Can you think of anything that might've caused him to break up with you. It might not even be something you did. Maybe he was under pressure from your parents or friends.

I think its best to give him some time, but keep a friendly open relationship with him so he doesn't lose interest, unless you want him to. If you think your done with this guy then just move on and find someone knew.

Revival · Oct 5, 2008, 09:06 AM

A) He feels as if you're smothering him, i.e. too clingy
B) His friends have kind of put the peer pressure on him
C) He's scared of commitment
D) What JB said.

It could be any of those, however it greatly depends on your age. That would be the deciding factor to which one of those it is for me.

ana101 · Oct 5, 2008, 06:33 PM

I think jb is a tool! To be honest with you
I mean he may be right on some level
My ex is stupid, he isn't smart. He wouldn't know if he collided with a 10 foot pole to be honest.
I have given him every opportunity to tell me to go away, or leave him alone.
And he hasn't ever answered that one question.
I told him its best that he sends my things down, and I get that he got bored with me, like he does with every other girl. He replied good one! Whatever! No I will give you your things in person.
So hopefully then I will get a clear answer