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Steffieme · Oct 3, 2008, 01:51 AM

Hi I´m stephany my boyfriend is 29 and I´m 19 we used to have sex at least once a week and that's not even much but that was OK with me... but now it has been like a month already:confused: I alwayz try to start something but he says he's too tired!! Is it because the age diference?? I try talking to him and he never wants to talk about it he says we´ll talk about it later,, and later never comes. I don't know what else to do.. how can I explain to him that SEX is more than just being horny! That without it I feel unloved, insecured I have been eating like crazy these last month I don't think I gain weight I still weight 150 and I´m 5´7 tall but after overeating I feel like and tell myself that that's why he doesn't want me like that anymore..

jaime90 · Oct 3, 2008, 08:11 AM

Tell him how you feel. If he says "We'll talk about it later" Ask him how much later. If he says he's just too tired, tell him that even going slow would satisfy you, just so that you can have that time with him.

You rely a lot on physical touch in your relationship- it's how you feel loved, and it's how you communicate love to others. If he just DOES NOT want to have sex, and you really love him, respect that. Instead of having sex, flirt more with him, hold his hand more, kiss him and hug him more so that you keep that physical contact.

mugger · Oct 3, 2008, 11:59 AM

A man's sexual prime is around age 19, while a woman's is 35. Now I'm not saying just because he's older he isn't going to want it any less. Like Jaime said, tell him how you feel. Communication is key in any relationship. Have you been together long? If you have, it may just mean that he is comfortable with you AND wants sex to be more meaningful than for it to seem like a "chore". Please don't confuse "comfortable" with bored.

xoxaprilwine · Oct 3, 2008, 12:06 PM

What's the age difference? Is he younger then you?

Fr_Chuck · Oct 3, 2008, 12:15 PM

Each person is different, and it may be he is working too much, how many hours aday does he work, is his job stressful.

But dating ( not living together of course) is when you are suppose to find out what each other does and does not do.

Steffieme · Oct 3, 2008, 07:13 PM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Each person is different, and it may be he is working too much, how many hours aday does he work, is his job stressful.

But dating ( not living together of course) is when you are suppose to find out what each other does and does not do.

He does works a lot all day he doesn't have a day off since he owns the business we have been together for 11 months already and I do love him a lot..

Steffieme · Oct 3, 2008, 07:14 PM

Yes

Steffieme · Oct 3, 2008, 07:17 PM

Originally Posted by jaime90

Tell him how you feel. If he says "We'll talk about it later" Ask him how much later. If he says he's just too tired, tell him that even going slow would satisfy you, just so that you can have that time with him.

You rely a lot on physical touch in your relationship- it's how you feel loved, and it's how you communicate love to others. If he just DOES NOT want to have sex, and you really love him, respect that. Instead of having sex, flirt more with him, hold his hand more, kiss him and hug him more so that you keep that physical contact.

I do love him and I do that a lot its just that whenever we are together he´s too tired and falls asleep when I´m there with him,. so its really frustuating

starfirefly · Oct 3, 2008, 07:45 PM

You deffinitly need to tell him how you feel and ask him why he doesn't want to do it.

Steffieme · Oct 4, 2008, 12:33 AM

I did try talking to him today. He didn't listed so all I said was.. baby what's sex for you is it more than just sex? And he said that it was more than just sex and he mention feelings so I just told him, see that's how I feel too, and without it I miss feeling all that love. I even proposed him to go down on him and not get nothing back he knows that I hate doing that but I was willing to do it so hopefully he would be on the mood but he said NO that he was too tired I really don't understan anymoreee I know he loves that and that I never do it and when I told him I was going to do it he let that big opportunity go.

He said there´s time for everything and that lately he´s got too much work so he's too tired and that we will make love soon. But I still feel like