[ConfusedDude]

So me and my girlfriend broke up like a week or two and apparently she wanted a break to see if I was the one. What I learned was she was already sleeping with some guy only like 5 days after the break up. I've still been hanging with her though cause she is one of my closest friends but she acts like were still going out when I'm around her. She calls me the pet names we had kisses my nose and tells me she loves me. I have asked her about this whole sleeping with this guy and she's like I don't ever want to talk about it because there is nothing to talk about. And the night I figured it out she tried playing it off as it was a movie we were talking about so don't be so mad. I haven't caught her in the act or anything like that but I saw a text saying she was sore from sex and he's going to go harder next and time she will get use to it. So basically her not confirming this to me is a big I slept with this guy. The thing that messes me up is she still loves me and says it like she use to when we were going out and is always cuddling like she was before and everything. Are there any tell tale signs she's cheated if I go over her house and see her so I can catch her red handed and finally squeeze it out of her? And what's up with this I love you part? And she was the first person to say in the relationship that I would never cheat on you because that's just wrong. So has that break up we had basically given her a free pass to whomever and whatever she wants now?

[Romefalls19]

Yes, the break up has given her a free pass to do whatever she pleases, but it also gives you that same right. Go meet new people! Start a life without her, as it will be a much better and productive one.

Every piece of advice on this forum that has been given to you has been to drop this girl. Have you not gotten the point yet? She is boinking someone else and you are still sticking around like a love sick puppy dog. Would you grow a set of b@lls! She is playing you for a fool and there you are playing the part very well, someone deserves an Oscar for this performance.

What more is it going to take for you to be a man and walk away holding some type of your dignity in hand?

[talaniman]

Your poor pathetic soul, you should have disappeared from her life, after you checked her shorts.

[JBeaucaire]

So has that break up we had basically given her a free pass to whomever and whatever she wants now?

Wow, dude, you ARE confused. You actually think THAT is what you should be thinking about.

Seriously, snap out of it. You're worshiping at the altar of "her". Cut it out.

It doesn't matter what she does or with whom now that you've broken up. It doesn't matter that you two have latent feelings for one another, those will always be there, but you won't "get over it" (as people like to call it... poppycock) until you've actually started obsessing with your future instead of this girl and the past.

Yes, asking questions about her current love life, what she says to you, or "what she means" now is you obsessing on the past. She's the past. All of this stuff is just dust in the wind, and dude... you're choking on it.

The feelings will be there forever. Got to move on anyway.

Stop posting questions about her. It's not that we don't care, it's that you're wasting time, precious time.

Go back and follow the advice we've already given you regarding your life. When we told you to "do some new stuff"... sitting here online pining over her every action isn't what we had in mind.

[ConfusedDude]

OK guys great news but sounds mad bad. I got more proof she's cheating on me but I'm good :). Its OK she is she's going to do what she does and I'm going to do what I want to do. Im moving on and I'm glad I am. I'm glad to be free of this girl and there's tonsssss out there for me to have and get into if I want to. Im going to hold off on relationships for awhile and just play the field when I'm rdy and just enjoy life and not worry about anyone but myself now :) u guys really helped me out and I thank you the grow some balls part helped me a lot because I realized how ignorant and stupid I was being. Thanks for setting me free.( anyone know how I can change my name but keep the same account to like free soul or something? Lol)

[bigbird213]

but you won't "get over it" (as people like to call it...poppycock) until you've actually started obsessing with your future instead of this girl and the past.

One of the best lines I've heard in a while... Once you start thinking about what you will be doing in the future, it's the best distraction from what is happening now, or what happened recently. When your down about the breakup, think about the next girl you will make happier than the first...