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maria16 · Oct 1, 2008, 02:08 PM

:(So I met this guy about a month ago, and he had been asking me out but I was not ready to date anyone at that time. Last week, I finally accepted and we went to dinner and a movie and it was wonderful. He was very affectionate and sweet but it has now been over a week and I have not heard from him. I left him a message saying I had a nice time but he has not replied. Did he lose interest because I am now available? Is he playing games because of pride issues? Any insights? :confused::confused:

jrsg · Oct 1, 2008, 05:13 PM

Could be a number of things, I don't really want to guess, or jump straight to the "he is a pig."

Whatever it is, I would say stop worrying about it. Move on.

maria16 · Oct 2, 2008, 09:48 PM

Thanks, I think you're right...
I was just a bit surprised considering how much he had pursued me before. And a bit sad.

JBeaucaire · Oct 2, 2008, 11:17 PM

You HAVE to realize that he might not have enjoyed the date as much as you. You HAVE to be able to acknowledge that WITHOUT adding "Oh my, what did I do wrong?"

The date may have been absolutely normal, and HE didn't enjoy it. You HAVE to be able to accept simple negatives without requiring they be big negatives.

Also, he may call. You HAVE to be OK with him not calling. It was a first date, right? You've never had a "first date" with a guy you never intended to have a second with after it was over?

This is really all OK.

maria16 · Dec 7, 2008, 02:33 PM

He called to say a few days after I posted that last note saying he'd been busy (which of course I don't buy as an excuse).
Now he sends me flirty emails about once a week, but we have yet to hang out again-
I'm guessing maybe he's dating someone else but wants to keep options with me open? Who knows