[Dallasboy]

Long story short. My ex left me five or six months ago. She has a boyfriend (the guy she left me for). I’m cool I have a new friend I'm finally over her. Here’s the question. My ex calls me the other day asking me if I could do some work on her house. I do handy work on the weekends as a hobby. I still care about her I don't hate for what she did to me. I want to help her but I really feel like her new boyfriend should be doing this. I asked her if he could do it and she say's he's not very handy at all. I want to help her but I really feel like she left me for this guy it's his responsibility now. What should I do...

[Romefalls19]

Nope, avoid that situation. Not worth the confusion it will cause. Are you guys really good friends?

Personally, I would say ignore this and simply say you are busy.

[ZoeMarie]

I totally understand what Romefalls is saying but my ex and I are friends and my husband likes my ex, I get along with my ex's fiancé. As weird as it sounds we hang out and do things together. He just bought a house and I was over there this last weekend helping him figure out his electrical fiasco in the living room. I guess it really depends on your situation, or if you would feel like you're being taken advantage of. If you're good friends I would say, why not help her out? If it's going to be a series of projects though I would charge her like you would charge anyone else.

[Romefalls19]

I agree, one of my exes and my fiancé are friends but that was only after the emotional dust has settled, and if you read his posts before, the dust wasn't settled for quite awhile. If he was completely over her, he wouldn't be on here asking if he should go. That is how I view this situation.

[candy abi]

I don't think you should do it that's really his responsibility now, or she should hire someone else to do it if her present boyfriend can't even lift a hammer lol but serioulsy its nice of you to consider it which shows you are not holding grudges but @the same time save your talented hands to please your present new chic

[bigbird213]

I'd have to agree with the general consensus... I wouldn't go over and do it. Obviously you still care for her if you want to help her out, and that's normal, but at the same time, it's a little unfair of her to ask you to do that for her...

[talaniman]

I would be to busy, and unavailable. Or be tempted to charge her up the keister just to get even. Naw, best just avoid this situation.

[ISneezeFunny]

Yeah, it's one thing if you found someone new, you're now friends with the ex, and the ex has found someone new, and your new significant other is friends with your ex, etc.

It's another thing if they broke up recently and are now just beginning the "friend" thing.

Stay away from this.

Ps - romefalls, you have a fiancé?! When the heck did you get engaged?

[redwee74]

Okay Dallasboy, I am going against the grain here. I have a bad case of nice guy and it bites me in the butt all the time. I get taken advantage of a lot. But I figure I am the one who has to look at myself in the mirror each morning so I always help if I am available. So I would do it IF I was not doing something else. But don't confuse her asking for help as other things. Just go do the work and leave.

[JBeaucaire]

When the ex asks you to do her "favors", just say, "I don't know if it's such a good idea....but I really COULD use the extra money. How much did you have in mind?"

That should get you out of it nicely.

[ZoeMarie]

When the ex asks you to do her "favors", just say, "I don't know if it's such a good idea....but I really COULD use the extra money. How much did you have in mind?"

That should get you out of it nicely.

Good idea! That's kind of what I was thinking. If he asked for money then maybe he could get out of it.