[starbuck8]

Something just really doesn't sound right to me here Ana. Within the span of 5 months, he has told you he loves you. Slept with his room mate, only once that he has told you about, but has "messed around" with her before.

Broken up with you at least once, but then wants you to move in with him.

Wakes you up in the middle of the night to tell you he loves you, follows you after a fight, has lied to you about things.

Now he has YOU blaming yourself? There is something wrong with this picture! Why are you letting him call all the shots here?. and all of this drama in a mere 5 months. Sounds like a very dysfuntional relationship to me, to say the least.

Do you really want your child involved in all of this drama? You involved your child on your "first date." Not a good move. Children shouldn't be along on a "date" with you. This gets them emotionally involved before you know how this will turn out, and it's not fair.

It's an adult situation, and children don't understand when they don't know why this guy has disappeared, comes back, and then disappears again!

You have already said that your child asks about him. You are confusing your child. A child should not get to know the "man in your life" until you have established where your relationship is going, and you have both discussed it. Only then is it all right to introduce your child.

You are in the "honeymoon" stage of your relationship right now, and you are caught up in the excitement, but he has already shown you signs of the type of man he may be. He can't honestly he say he "LOVES" you at this stage. Love is a lot more than just a "feeling" Love takes time to grow and establish.

I would back off, and watch his actions very carefully. Backing off will allow you to see how he reacts to that, and will give you a little more insight into his character.

Good luck! :)

[ana101]

I am backing off. I am giving him space for a couple of weeks.
If he still has feelings for me now, he might still have them when we catch up to talk when I get back from my trip.
When he says he wants space. He means it. He isn't one to go back on his word.
The housemate is gone.
After I found out. He then said well lets make things official (bf and gf) just so I don't get hurt again.