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headache · Sep 23, 2008, 07:07 AM

I don't know what to do or how to make it better. I'm usually the happiest most positive person who enjoys life to the fullest, but I haven't felt like myself for a couple months now, and I'm starting to forget who I am normally. Maybe some of you hve seen my last couple posts but this is why...
Met a girl that I was instantly crazy about, and the feeling was mutual, or so it seemed. We spent every day together for a month and a half. I was freaked out to be in a relationship as I've had a really bad experience and didn't want to get hurt again, but we were having such a good time with each other and I don't know what made me so into her but it happened. Then we got pregnant. I didn't ever want to have kids and I freaked out a little but showed my support for whatever decision she made. Then I started getting really excited about having a kid. But ever since we found out, she has been avoiding me and being really weird around me, then she tells me she can't handle the stress of a serious relationship right now. I've barely seen her since a month and a half ago. I really want to get to know her and have at least somewhat of a good relationship with my kid's mom, but she is not letting me, nor is she making any effort to get to know me better. I have tried and tried, but it's not working. I don't want to fight for a relationship that's not wanted or one sided, but at the same time she is the only person I've had strong feelings for in a long time, and I want us to have a good friendship for the kid's sake.
I haven't slept well in weeks, my appetite is minimal, I feel my sense of humor is gone, I haven't genuinley laughed in way too long. I don't know what to do, I'm so confused and hurt by the whole situation and it just seems to affect me more and more each day. I don't enjoy life these days and I just want to get back to being happy. I've been sort of having anxiety attacks I think too. I don't know what kind of answers to expect from anyone as it's a situation that I can't do much about, but I digress.

tickle · Sep 23, 2008, 08:14 AM

Becoming a new mother is a lot to handle, especially when it is out of wedlock and maybe not entirely wanted (I hate to say that but it's a fact in many cases), you apparently do.

I would say back off for a while, no contact, wait till she contacts you; it has to be in her terms now, a lot has changed. Be patient, I think that is all you need to do at the moment and start getting your life back together and being normal again. You may need that normalcy to patch things up with her without getting upset. Works towards that for the present and good, luck, headache.

tickle · Sep 23, 2008, 08:14 AM

Becoming a new mother is a lot to handle, especially when it is out of wedlock and maybe not entirely wanted (I hate to say that but it's a fact in many cases), you apparently do.

I would say back off for a while, no contact, wait till she contacts you; it has to be in her terms now, a lot has changed. Be patient, I think that is all you need to do at the moment and start getting your life back together and being normal again. You may need that normalcy to patch things up with her without getting upset. Work towards that for the present and good, luck, headache.

Choux · Sep 23, 2008, 11:16 AM

Welcome to the real world as people sufffer from the bad choices that they make. This isn't mental or emotional illness, my friend, this is real life misery. It's normal especially when we goof-up.

You didn't mention how old you are??

headache · Sep 23, 2008, 01:44 PM

Originally Posted by Choux

Welcome to the real world as people sufffer from the bad choices that they make. This isn't mental or emotional illness, my friend, this is real life misery. It's normal especially when we goof-up.

You didn't mention how old you are??????

I'm 24, and I am aware I don't have a mental illness. But mentally healthy I am not right now.