[brokenhearted1515]

NO. You cannot judge a whole race because of one person. One of my exes was greek. A wonderful man, very honest, tooo honest to say the least. That's like judging all women to be stupid, because of one woman who judges a whole race because of one person. Grow up. Was that too mean? Oh well, its honest.

[starbuck8]

This is a very old thread, but still very relevant. I'm glad so many people agree that judging a whole race, because of one person is actually quite discriminatory and hateful.

[NikolasZografos]

Okay, I consider myself well-suited to answer this question, being as I am a GREEK man...

I have the advantage of both sides... being able to sympathize with her (my mother was abused by my greek, over-dominating father) and on the other hand, being a male of greek origins... I would sure hope that you wouldn't judge ME based on the others.

In short, I'd just have to agree with the others, but with a grain of salt. There are a lot of white-guilt ridden people in the U.S. who are afraid to speak about other cultures. Why do you think "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" was so big? It's because people want to see the other culture, and how radically different it is, and it truly is VERY different.

You just need to be aware that, if he grew up in a Greek household, he probably has a different perspective on life than you. Acknowledging that isn't racism, it's just being observant and aware. I forgave my father for having left me... and you need to just move on and mark it up as "cultural differences." Not the lying, but the all around communication problems... and ultimate failure of your relationship.

<3 Good Luck, and I hope I wasn't too blunt,
Nikolas Zografos

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sorrymiss
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What a supurb answer. Read it several times people, there is much understanding and depth in it.

You tread on thin ice to marry outside of your culture without first investigating and learning about it. Even with this understanding, you will find it very difficult to get along with a Greek spouse in Greece: better to try this abroad and away from Greek influences.

400 years of Ottoman occupation has left its mark on a culture that protects itself from strangers.

[TrueFaith]

no wonder he left you girl
with that typ of out look on life. Wow.

Most of my X girls cheated on me

do call all women cheaters?

errr No.

grow up

and yeah this is an old post but I thought I would get my 2 bits in ;)

[slapshot_oi]

Ti Karnes,

Anybody with greek boyfriends?
My greek boyfriend left me with a child.He dissapeared and can't find him.I did nothing wrong,been faithfull to him. Can't understand why happend this.We were making wedding plans....Are greek man so big liers?

Hey watch it!

Greeks are also known to be voracious gamblers. I'm Greek and I love to place bets on the NHL and NBA, roulette has got me too. So, I guess there must be some truth to the stereotypes.

[oryanabella]

There are definitely cultural and behavioral patterns that groups of people and nationality follow. Is there a theme of exclusivity, discrimination, xenophobia, misogyny and insularity among many Greeks and even more so Greek-Americans? Yes, but ultimately this has less to do with their being Greek than with their level of development. If you look at most 'developing' countries you get allot fo the same (not using it in formal economic terms).

Firstly, although a small country Greece has an incredible amount of diverse subcultures that frequently are opposite from each other. For example, within only one little island, you've got a matriarchal society in the north and a patriarchal one in the south.

Also keep in mind that in many cultures that came late into the development/industrialization game, whether Greek, Italian, Arab, Irish, Russian etc. you have allot of these negative survivalist and what i would consider neuroses going on. Yes it is true that the traumas inflicted on them by Turks, Germans, Bulgarians, Albanians etc and each other has led to these coping survival mechanisms.

Also keep in mind that if you found one of the 'good ones' it would be hard to find in our Anglo or Protestant culture of industrialized anomie, coldness and depression an equivalent to the extreme loyalty, affection and love many of the 'good' Greek men can give you.

Sorry for your pain and I don't want to minimize it but it's important to step back and see things more honestly and objectively.

Just like positivity, negativity is a present or curse that each person that inherits it can decide to difuse, or otherwise not pass along. That you got burned has clouded your understanding of what really is going on here. My two drachmas, uh I mean euros :)

This is just one of the best answer about this thread...
My sister is dating this polish guy and everybody even his mother thought it would work out since we are not polish but black. But I can tell you they have together for 7 month now and they deeply love each other. I am about to be in a relationship with a greek guy so I thought it was funny to read all of thread about greek Guys!