[Kevin_s]

Aside from the fact almost all the waters in the bay area are disgusting and polluted LOL

[h0llister]

Oh lol never mind how old are you?

[Kevin_s]

oh lol nevermind how old r u?

I was driving home from work. I'm 20. How you holding up?

[h0llister]

My boyfriend just broke up with me last night and I am sooo hurt I didn't fall asleep until 3am because I was crying so much and then I woke up at 7am and cried again and now its 11am everything is so screwed up for me I am sooo hurt, I want to call him to see maybe he regrets breaking up with me. I have a really sharp pain in my chest that still hasn't gone away and I feeel like doing completely nothing I'm so hurt I don't think I've ever been this hurt in my life (from a relationship) I miss him soooooo much, help advice how do I keep my fingers away from the phone.

[Romefalls19]

I understand your feeling, it happens after a break up. Calling him will get you absolutely no where. Read the stickies on the forum and take time to mourn your loss. It will get better over time, just let it out and don't try to hold in your feelings

[h0llister]

Like he has been realllly stressed with school and he has a hard time not taking out stress on other people and we had a really good relationship and it came out of no where. Like its not fair to me and I love him so much and I want to be there for him when he's stressed and I'm so hurt I hate this so much and I miss him

[Romefalls19]

I know it's hard, he has been thinking about it for awhile though so it may not be an out of the blue thing for him, just for you as it mostly is for the person who is broken up with

[h0llister]

We broke once before (about a year ago) and I was hurt we stayed broken up for about a month and then got back together and this time when we broke up it is hurting soooo much more, like we had so many future plans so much to look forward too now I feel like I have taken 5 steps back in life. All I want is to hold him again ,he still tells me he loves me, how can someone still love someone but put them through all this pain

[talaniman]

I wish there was a magic pill for the pain, but there isn't. Crying is nothing to be ashamed of, so let it flow.

[JBeaucaire]

You broke up LAST NIGHT and are pining away now about how much you miss him? You haven't even let the "missing him" start? Let's just say you are GOING to miss him, there we can agree.

Meanwhile, your question "how do I keep from calling him?" Let's see.

What is it you want in a boyfriend? You want this guy no matter how he feels or what he thinks or how he treats you? That's what you want? Him... no matter what? Really?

What about someone who craves spending time with you? What about someone who honors and cherishes you and your ideals? Someone who, after dating over a year, is more a fan of you than ever before?

Any of that sound good? It should. It's the POINT of dating.

I know your heart is starting to hurt. It's going to hurt a lot more. You know why? Because the heart is a big fat baby! The heart is a raw, mindless creature that wants what it wants and doesn't care about what is good for us.

So, YOU have to be smart about this whole process. Being in love is fine. But it can't control you. You're mind knows what's good for you. You have dreams of the perfect life and the perfect relationship... dreams in your MIND, not your heart.

To attain that dream, you have to be ready to walk away from failing love. Your heart will scream and pitch a tantrum the whole time... but you still have to do it.

This guy has given you a SECOND chance to get your life back and get back to finding the better love, the one that builds you up and makes your life better. Take this chance. Seize it, make it count.

When you are tempted to reach for the phone, remember, you're about to call the guy who makes you feel as badly as you do right now, as desperate as you do right now. Only call him if you want this desperation in your life forever.

You're smarter than that.

[h0llister]

That's true, I miss him because were in long distance and I know now we will never ever see each other again. Its hard to accept not only the loss of the relationship but the loss of him forever

[h0llister]

And everything is reminding me of him like everything of his country to his language to his favorite movies on TV gahh its driving me insane

[jjwoodhull]

It's hard because essentially it is breaking a habit. Surround yourself with friends and family who will be supportive, keep you occupied and make you laugh. Be Strong!

[h0llister]

Thank you!

[h0llister]

Ok last night when my boyfriend broke up with me, he was super stressed with school and homework and exams and we got in a fight and he broke up with me. I think it might be because of his school stress. Im not to sure if its for real he wants to break up or because of school stress. (he has problems taking out other problems on people) I really want to call him to know if he truly means it or if its from school and if we should just have a break until things settle down.. I really feel I need to know so I am able to move on or not... what do you guys think?

[bigdee]

I think you should leave him alone until he is less stressed out otherwise you might just aggravate the situation...

[h0llister]

That's true, I am suffering so much because I don't no if he was serious or not and its killing me

[bigdee]

If he was not serious, he'll realize the error of his ways and come back to you. But he'll only figure this out when he is less stressed out. Bugging him when he is stressed out to find out if he was serious might only antagonize him more and make him say more stuff he does not really mean.

[h0llister]

That's true, thank you! That sounds excatly like him! Lol

[Romefalls19]

Stop! You've been told not to call or contact him. Read tons of other posts just like yours, pressure the person who broke up with you and it only ends in more heartache because they are still angry and you go and poke the bear with a stick