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samsung12 · Sep 10, 2008, 04:05 PM

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for quite sometime now. I feel very comfortable around her, as does she around me. I trust her very much, and she trusts me as well. When we first began to date, we use to have sex pretty often, but it never has felt good for her, she just has never had the urge to "want sex" I have always been the one to ask to do it. Do any of you have an idea why? Recently she has gone away to college. We use to text each other all the time 24/7. now she barley ever texts me anymore, but she still tells me that she loves me very much so. I trust her, but I don't know what it is. Everything seems to shady for me. As for me, for the most part I have no desire to text her anymore or even speak to her. But on some days I miss her so much. I have thought about ending the relationship, but when I think about doing that and her being with other men I get so angry. What do I do? Is she not interested anymore?

ylaira · Sep 10, 2008, 04:14 PM

You didn't mention how old the two of you, the relationship and how long this situation has been.

Relationship will NOT be forever in a HONEYMOON STAGE. When the spark is gone and things get rough, love is tested.

Have you told her about this? What did she say?

samsung12 · Sep 10, 2008, 04:20 PM

We are both 20. We have been on an off for the past 3 years. But have been dating 10 months straight now.
I've talked to her about this. And I've told her that she doesn't do much in the relationship, or does not show that she wants to be together. And she will always stress how much she loves me though. When I tell her how I feel about certain things she won't want to talk about it, because it "puts her in a bad mood" and she will get very angry.

ylaira · Sep 10, 2008, 04:28 PM

She stayed with you even if you broke up 3 times? If No history of betrayal from any of the party, Well I must say SHE'S BORED WITH YOU. I don't know what you do but change routines.

samsung12 · Sep 10, 2008, 04:38 PM

No, we broke up once. And I had cheated on her once, and she found out but we stuck through it and she forgave me. She smokes marijuana frequently as well

plonak · Sep 10, 2008, 04:41 PM

Let me tell you something.. just because you love someone doesn't mean you should be with them.. with her stressing that she loves you doesn't tell you anything whether if she wants to stay in the relationship..

You need to talk to her you can't know for sure if you don't talk, and if she gets all pissy about it, let her know that if she doesn't want to talk about it, then the relationship could suffer the consequences..

I loved my ex DEARLY when I broke up with him, even though I loved him to death, I knew that we couldn't be together.. so sit her down and tell her you want some answers to her weird behavior or your leaving.. that should get her talking

samsung12 · Sep 10, 2008, 04:45 PM

I've confronted her about her behavior and she says that she doesn't agree with me and she just does see it. I've told her. And asked her. Do u want to be with me? If you want to break up with me do it, and if thought of any other guys while your at college crosses your mind, then tell me.

samsung12 · Sep 10, 2008, 05:05 PM

And she says she doesn't see her change in her behavior

ylaira · Sep 10, 2008, 05:06 PM

Do things have changed since you cheated on her and you got back together?

For now, I must say she's bored and she haven't fully recovered with your cheating. Putting distance is a defense to frustration. And the marijuana MAYBE a taking toll on her focus.

Talk to her and give an ultimatum.

samsung12 · Sep 10, 2008, 05:13 PM

I think she has recovered from the cheating. I mean I do everything for her. Over the summer I have taken her to see her favorite play, we have always gone to see the movies she has wanted to see, dinner all the time, we have done everything that she has wanted to do. I've told her all the time that she should replace marijuana with sex haha. I mean maybe I am over reacting because she just has gone away to college like a month ago, and the last 5 weeks before she left everything thing was perfect, everything was just going great, but now I feel that she just does not care, but she keeps telling me she does and that she wants to be with me and stay together, I mean maybe you are right that the marijuana is just taking complete control of her focus.

ylaira · Sep 10, 2008, 05:22 PM

If most of time she JUST DON'T INITIATE but agrees when you ask to have sex, then there should not be problem. Just improve your bed skills, so she'll ask for more ha ha ha