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Briton2012 · Sep 8, 2008, 06:23 PM

Hey guys this is the first question I've ever posted so bear with me..

I've been dating this girl for 1 1/2 years and I absolutely love her. We've just gone through our first week of college (we go to the same college) and she tells me that we should take a break. She said that she had been under a lot of stress, both from new experiences of college and her situation at her home.. our relationship has been perfect up until now and I really don't want to lose this girl. I told her I was OK with her decision and that id support her as best as I could. How long should I expect to wait before I can start talking about relationship with her?

BrewCrew0981 · Sep 8, 2008, 06:36 PM

Figure out why you went on a break in the first place. If she really loved/cared about you, she wouldn't have needed to go on a break in the first place. Use the time to think about YOU and do what YOU want to do. Don't you think you deserve someone who isn't going to break your heart?

ylaira · Sep 8, 2008, 07:54 PM

My opinion:::::When she contacts you back or 3 weeks whichever comes first.

Romefalls19 · Sep 9, 2008, 06:08 AM

Breaks hardly ever work in favor of the breakee. It's usually a tactic used by people who are too scared to end it completely. The details of a break should be worked out when the topic is first brought up

talaniman · Sep 9, 2008, 06:36 AM

When they ask for a break its usually permanent. If she can't deal with everyday life, she probably isn't the one for you anyway.

JBeaucaire · Sep 9, 2008, 04:14 PM

I know our answers are discouraging, but they're meant to keep YOU from wasting time. Treat the break like a breakup. Start a healing process and most of all get on with your life.

If there is ANY chance of you two ending up together, it won't be because you "waited for her". It will be because you continued on with an awesome version of your life, continued to develop all the wonderful things you are going to be... and she accidentally makes it back to you before you find something much better than her. That's the risk SHE is taking.

The point is, there is ALWAYS someone better. It's your job to be open to it whilst moving full speed ahead.

Either your ex girl will see you confidently having a great life and eagerly try to come back at some point, or you'll find something better. It's win-win for you, either way. Make SURE you get both doors open. It is MORE likely one of the 1000s of better girls for you will make an appearance, so check it out.

SIDEBAR: It is virtually impossible to "convince" a girl to come back to you. It's futile to pine after her. It is to your advantage to put her back on the offense by being as OK with the break as soon as possible. That will get her attention faster than anything. But this isn't a trick to get her back, it needs to be real. You really DO need to be OK and keep your life moving forward.