[osshuudxw]

Hi I ve been married for 5 yrs now me and my wife have a beautiful daughter together our relation ship had a lot of problems we argue all the time and it is getting worst , lately when we argue my wife says staff like you need to grow your penis or you arenot good at bed than later she appologizes and than says I was just trying to hurt you the problem things like that stays in my head and I can't forget about does she really mean it my wife was my first and only women I have been with what should I do I don't feel the same towards her and I am thinking to just run away I am really tired of this its not like she said once but lately she has been saying it every time we argue she brings it up I feel like she is comparing me withsome body else I feel like she is emotionally with some one else and don't know how to end our relationship I feel like she is confused

[lmnotok]

Hey I think your wife has a very serious insecurity problem that she couldn't even solve the problem healthily, and had to attack other people in a very sick way in order to make you feel bad so that she can win over the argument. That's very sick and horrible to say to a husband something like that.

I think from now on you should be stronger, tell her to STOP talking , and tell you honestly what she really thinks, because it hurts you, tell her "i can't put up with this anymore, you can't just be childish and terrible to use your words as a weapon against me like this, why are you doing this? Whats the point?"
And then listen to what she said, don't make wrong assumption like she's intimate with someone. Because I think this is just a insecurity and desperate problem.

[talaniman]

I think the way you communicate, and disagree, needs a lot of work, and you need to not take words designed to hurt you personally. She ain't happy, and its up to you both to address this. Deal with the problem, and not the results, as you both are insecure, and it's the lack of honest communication at the bottom of it.

Sometimes you must step back, and listen. Hurting each other solves nothing, but does bring about anger, frustration, and resentments, and the whole point of the real problem is missed.

[lmangileri]

So when you argue about something she brings unrelated issues into the fight as well? That's not right. That's downright mean. It sounds to me that she just wants to hurt you so she can win the fight. Don't let her do that. If she brings things up like that while you are fighting tell her you don't care, that's not the issue you're fighting about. I suggest both of you talk to a counselor. Then maybe you could understand why she does that and maybe she would understand why she shouldn't.